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AIBU to think this bloke is just odd?

26 replies

StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 14:47

Used to work in a call centre and started getting to know this woman, we'll call her Katie. She was an absolute hoot, we're still in contact, she's one of my best friends.

While we were there this bloke, we'll call him Carl, started working there. She and Carl hit it off and started going out. They were so unbelievably flirty together that it would sometimes affect their work, but no-one seemed to really care.

While Katie and Carl were going out he started talking to me, and right from the off he struck me as cheesy, slimy, greasy and a bit of a cad. He was overly friendly with a lot of women, would make inappropriate sexual comments and contact "by accident"... he was just generally a bit of a twunt, but according to Katie he never cheated because they lived in eachothers pockets and she'd "just know".

They separated, and then I moved away. He has recently added me on Facebook and so I thought "Why not? Would be nice to check in occasionally". Occasionally.

Ever since he's left posts on my wall that I've deleted, he's started talking to me in Chat ever single time I sign on, he's begged me for my mobile so he can text me, he comments on almost every single status I put up...

I just delete it all and I've told him that we were never that close, he doesn't need to be quite so clingy, I have a partner so he has no business being overly friendly and he's making me feel very uncomfortable.

I've put him on a limited profile and he's now completely gone off the deep end, wanting to know why we can't talk, and if my DP is that jealous of "us" I should just dump him, which he'd love because he wants to come up and see my DS as "he's such a gorgeous baby boy".

I have no problems telling people no, but this bloke just isn't taking the hint! I've even tried removing him as a friend, but he sent me messages every day, guilt-tripping me into adding him again! I've threatened him with action from DP but he doesn't seem to care....

AIBU in thinking this bloke is just completely insane, and he should have gotten the hint last time when I told him "to fuck off to the far end of fuck"?!

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Hullygully · 16/11/2011 14:49

you love him, don't you?

dexter73 · 16/11/2011 14:50

Can you report him to facebook for harassing you? They would be able to see from his account how often he has been contacting you, I would think. Also just ignore his messages - you don't need to feel guilty about not talking to him.

lisaro · 16/11/2011 14:50

Block him.

StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 14:50

I'd love him more if he did as he was told and fucked off.

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Witchofthenorth · 16/11/2011 14:51

Hully you have made laugh out loud.......very loudly! OP why not just block him and ignore?

BluddyMoFo · 16/11/2011 14:52

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StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 14:52

Might report for harrassment... I hadn't thought of that!

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MissMogwi · 16/11/2011 14:53

Delete and block.
He won't have any choice but to fuck the fuck off then.

He sounds like a right catch. Grin

BluddyMoFo · 16/11/2011 14:55

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StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 14:56

I just don't get it - I've never really shown him any excess warmth, so this has just come from left-field and hit me like a frying pan..... I'm not exactly the nicest of people either, it takes a while to warm to me because of my sense of humour, so I have no IDEA why he's being such a dickwad...

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gordyslovesheep · 16/11/2011 14:56

shagg him ...then block him

ShoutyHamster · 16/11/2011 14:57

Delete, block, report to local vicar.

StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 14:58

I think I'd rather fellate a circular cheesegrater, but thank you for the suggestion Gordys...Hmm

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kblu · 16/11/2011 14:59

Block him and that's the end of it. Sounds like a prick.

IneedAbetterNickname · 16/11/2011 15:00

Block him!

JeremyVile · 16/11/2011 15:00

Tricky....if only there was a fail-safe way to stop him from contacting you.

Have you tried chanting? Trying to harness the powers of the universe to effectively create a barrier, a block if you will between the two of you?

mummymeister · 16/11/2011 15:00

Why are you worried about what he thinks?You don't like him so who gives a damn. thats why facebook invented blocking so that if someone gets on your nerves you dont have to put up with them you just block them. how can you let him guilt trip you if you dislike him so much. are you secretly flattered by his attention? mixed messages to him and MN i think.

squeakytoy · 16/11/2011 15:02

As others have said.. just block him. He cant see your profile at all, or contact you then.

StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 15:02

I try and see the best in people, so when he starts pulling out the "But I just wanted to see how you were..." guilttrip I soften.

Fuck it. He's blocked.

And how on earth is telling him to "fuck off to the far end of fuck" a mixed message?

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BluddyMoFo · 16/11/2011 15:03

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JeremyVile · 16/11/2011 15:04

Did you actually say that? In those words?

And then re-friend him? or whatever the sodding terminology is.

Grin That quite funny

kerrymumbles · 16/11/2011 15:05

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StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 15:16

I told him it, and he thought it was a joke. I told him it wasn't and he just "LOL'd" and said "you're funny because you think you're serious"...

Weirdo...

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StealthPenguin · 16/11/2011 15:17

And no, thankfully I'm not that daft!

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ViviPru · 16/11/2011 15:19

:) @ this thread

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