to not want to go out today

[paranoid2android]

I feel like I should be going out, joining some mother and baby group or starting a music classes, so that I can meet people and start sewing the seeds for when DD is older,(she's now 10 weeks) and wants to have lots of friends so that we have a vibrant social life. I'd like to meet some mums, and develop some relationships, before then.
Right now though all I feel like doing is staying in bed for most of the day, reading while DD naps, and not having to get dressed! It seems so cold outside, and it's such a stress getting around with a baby, I am kind of lonely because of being a stay at home mum, and the more I stay home the lazier I get, and less inclined to go out, thus the vicious cycle continues. I'm sort of scared also of joining some group, and having to make conversation, or arriving at music class late , or having to feed all the way through, it just doesn't seem worth the effort!

You need to get out Hun. I felt like that when I first had DS. Found a very small mum and baby group near me, am still friends with the women now. I ended up looking forwards to Wednesday afternoons so I could socialise

It's not worth the effort. They are all crap.

I remember that feeling well! I hated the first group I went to. It was at a really awkward time, just after mid-day, so prime nap time for DD. It was a good 40 min walk uphill (post CS and recovering from SPD), and if you didn't get there early it was so packed there was no where to sit! That meant it was very difficult to talk to anyone, so it sort of defeated the purpose. Looking back I don't know why I put myself through it. Eventually I'd had enough, ended up just taking DD out for walks, to the park etc.

Getting out of the house each day did make a big difference. Now I go to a smaller, better organised and all together nicer group, with another mumsnetter who found the group. Different world! Maybe have a look on the local bit of mumsnet, there are some really nice people on here. I would suggest trying to get out for a bit of fresh air each day, but don't stress about it, and don't force yourself to go to a group you don't enjoy too, have a look around, there will be one somewhere that suits.

hanaka88, thanks, you are right, I do, just such a big stress trying to get out for an exact time and if I stayed in maybe I could get a nap!
pallymama I do walk every day even if I don't go anywhere social. I have found an okay group, not as bad as your first one sounds! I missed this week but will make a fresh start next week, sometimes I have to get abit lonely to realise how important it is to make the effort

Oh, I felt JUST like that when my DS was still wee! That said, I sucked it up and went out and have managed to make some lovely friends. Sad fact is, my social life is better WITH the baby that it was WITHOUT....

I do know how you feel, I struggle to be sociable. But now dd is 16 months I do find life easier when we have somewhere to go and something to do, pref with other people! So perhaps give yourself the aim of a couple of things you like the sound of (I didn't do any classes bar swimming) or to go our every other day or something?

Wrap up warm and head to the local park.Found it much easier to talk to other Mums there rather than in a playgroup setting.Try a couple of different groups as they do vary.Keep smiling.I have been there too.3 years later both DD and myself have made some good friends.

Oooh, I could have written this OP when my DD was 10 weeks! Still could actually and shes now nearly 11 months. Ive been avoiding going to the post office for two days and havent left the house since saturday. I do try to go for a walk, take DD to the swings or just head to the nearest shops to have a quiet coffee (much easier when DD was younger!) but I totally see how the weather can put you off. So cold, have to figure out how many layers to put on, is the bottle going to stay warm etc etc. I avoid baby groups like the plague. Tried desperately for 8 months and eventually gave up. Hate them. Wish I didnt though, DD loves them.

thanks for your replies, you've all made me feel much better, and now I actually do feel like going to my mums and babies group, as it's made me think that perhaps all the others are just like me, don't really like them, but just want a way to make some friends. I am looking forward to spring though, when DD will be a bit older and feeding out in the park etc, will be a bit easier.
Reeble Beeble I don't think I could have stayed in since Saturday though! I go crazy if I don't exercise daily, but I guess you must get a lot chasing after a 11 month old!