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to think that, if your legs are hurting, you move?

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SenseofEntitlement · 16/11/2011 01:04

Dd1 is four and in reception. She is normally very clever. However, we are starting to have a problem with her telling us she is going to play in another room or have a nap or whatever, then hiding. Of course, if we don't know she is hiding, it can be a short while till we find her. The thing is, she will stay in the hiding place, no matter how uncomfortable, until she is found. We have had to lift her, still curled up, on to the bed and massage her legs while she cries to get her moving again. She has also had the teachers worrying that she has escaped because she didn't answer when called and was hiding too well until they actually found her.
Argh. How do you explain the rules of hide and seek, such as telling people that you are playing it in the first place?

OP posts:
worraliberty · 16/11/2011 01:07

Are you sure she's playing hide and seek? That's fairly strange behavior if it actually hurts her to the point she cries? Confused

LDNmummy · 16/11/2011 01:14

That's really strange, I have never heard of a child doing this type of thing before.

I'm also wondering if this is hide and seek or something else Confused

Slightlyreluctantexpat · 16/11/2011 01:15

It sounds to me as if she is testing you and the teachers, I mean testing your love by going missing and seeing if you notice. Is she finding the adjustment to school quite difficult? Does she disappear at times when the attention has gone off her and she hopes that you'll look for her, and therefore the attention will be back on her again?

She isn't my DD but I think she needs a lot of reassurance right now. For some reason I think she is finding things difficult.

I think it's a little more than misunderstanding the rules of hide and seek.

LDNmummy · 16/11/2011 01:16

I would speak to someone about this before your DD does herself some harm by hiding somewhere dangerous or physically hurting herself.

Sorry I have nothing more constructive to offer, just thinking how frustrating it must be for you OP.

BumgrapesofWrath · 16/11/2011 03:42

Sorry I have no advice - but I did used to do the exact same thing at that age. I remember my mum frantically crying and running around trying to find me but I would not reveal where I was.

I wonder if it might be an insecurity thing...

IAmAnEAGetMeOuttaHere · 16/11/2011 04:31

We have an absolute ban on Hide & Seek in my family. I just will not allow it. On the rare ocassions that my DC have hidden somewhere in a 'let's hide from mum/dad' kind of way, I have gone mental at them.

Hide & Seek is a stupid game and potentially quite dangerous.

3littlefrogs · 16/11/2011 05:52

This doesn't sound like hide and seek to me, TBH.

Is there something else going on, in the family or at school?

How do you react when you find her?

KittyFane · 16/11/2011 07:12

I'm also wondering how you react when you find her especially if her legs are stiff. Do you make a big fuss of her or tell her off for hiding without telling you?

CadleCrap · 16/11/2011 07:21

My DS also likes to hide. We just say in loud voices, "DS must have gone to school. We'll gust go to the park/eat this chocolate etc" without him. He normally comes running

seeker · 16/11/2011 07:27

"Hide & Seek is a stupid game and potentially quite dangerous." eh???

LoveBeingAFirework · 16/11/2011 07:29

Btw I'm sure it's just that her legs have gone 'dead' so it diesnt hurt till the pins and needles start.

How about an allocation session if hide and seek each day, which is the only tine it can be played? That or put a bell on her Grin

Sirzy · 16/11/2011 07:30

Depends where they are hiding I guess seeker!

Being played normally I wouldn't class it as dangerous though!

LoveBeingAFirework · 16/11/2011 07:31

Also wondering if I should be worried about my dd who is 3.5 and thinks putting a cushion in front of her face is a foolproof hiding spot and cries if you find her straightaway......

MincePieFlavouredVoidka · 16/11/2011 07:42

Hide & Seek is a stupid game and potentially quite dangerous

Please explain. I must be terribly reckless as DD and I play hide and seek most days!

LeBOF · 16/11/2011 07:50

Father Christmas didn't leave any presents for a little girl who was hiding once. Just sayin'...

seeker · 16/11/2011 08:37

My dd used to say " come on mummy, let's play hide and seek. Let's hide together" when we were the only two people home.

KittyFane · 16/11/2011 08:37

If a child is hiding without telling anyone that they are playing then it's not a game of hide and seek IMO.

I imagine that the people saying hide and seek is dangerous are saying that If DC go off randomly and hide in very strange places (for example under clothes racks whilst out shopping) and then don't let on despite frantic shouting from parents, it is a pretty dangerous game (IOW, the child could get lost).

seeker · 16/11/2011 10:09

I don't think it's actually dangerous to get lost for a while in a branch of Marks and Spencer...."

KittyFane · 16/11/2011 18:30

seeker Really?

Potentially dangerous I would say. I wouldn't be happy.

seeker · 16/11/2011 19:01

Scary, rage inducing, heart stopping- but not actually dangerous!

KittyFane · 16/11/2011 19:44

Seeker I would say that there is danger in losing a young child in a crowd of strangers.
Doesn't take much of an imagination to work out the reasons why.

KittyFane · 16/11/2011 19:45

...for the child obviously.

WinterIsComing · 16/11/2011 19:56

Agree (again) with BoF. Santa is a very busy chap and may not leave presents.

Grin at the posts from seeker - sorry, just tickled me.

My local M&S has an escalator which makes it fairly dangerous but worse than that DD once de-materialised amidst the Per Una section while I perusing Christmas gifts which was mortifying. I did eventually go and look for her once I was sure that nobody I knew was around Wink

spottydogpencilcase · 16/11/2011 20:04

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 16/11/2011 20:25

seeker Jamie Bulger... no not at al dangerous, just saying

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