Should be in Education but am wondering if IABU?

[SaggyHairyArse]

ongoing problems with DS and a boy in his class (little shite), get fed all the PC/PR speil and have tried working with the school. Did flip out last week as DS getting himself in a right state about things. Bought him a diary today to write down what has happened after morning break and lunch if necessary. Cannot go into school so have given DS note (will speak to teacher on Friday).

I have written heading for DS of 'date', 'what happened?', 'what did you do?' as 1) I want DS to note down what has happened physically and verbally, 2) I want to know if DS responds as he has been told to for the last 4 years and whether any staff take any action and 3) I want the events diarised for evidence purproses.

AIBU?

How old is he and what sort of problems is he having?

I don't think YABU at all. So sorry to hear your DS is going through this. What measures have the school put into place so far? How old is DS?

I'm assuming the problems in question are bullying, from your OP?

If it's bullying your son is going through YADNBU.

Hope it gets resolved for you and your DS.

Yes, he is getting hit and such like as well as being told 'you're the biggest retard in the world" amongst other gems.

The school says all the right things on a pastoral level regarding DS but whatever sanctions the other child gets are ineffective as he continues to make DSs life a misery and DS has also got to the point where he says there is no point telling anyone (other than me).

:(

Bloody hell that's awful. for your ds.

What does the school's bullying policy say should be happening by now? HT involved, governor? Is there a behaviour committee/governor?

Is it MHS? If so, I have heard that they are not very effective at dealing with bullying, from my friends who have dc there. Thing is, if it IS that school, it's not like you can easily GET him to another one, either, is it?

Could the school not seek to seperate DS and the other child?

(Sorry, got a while til DS reaches primary school, so not sure how practical/doable this is)

Aww that's crap for him

Yes the diary sounds like a good idea, although it's important to remember it's not evidence...it's still your son's word against the other boys unless there are any witnesses.

Also, will anyone see him filling it in? If so, I'd be concerned that may cause him more problems with bullying IYSIM.

Really, the staff need to do something about this now.

Write a letter to the board of Governors. Ask what the school are doing to SAFEGUARD your ds in the letter. They will run scared at a letter to the Board of Governors including the word safeguarding because it can affect their OFSTED rating. And if there is physical stuff going on, then the school are not keeping your DS safe.

I HATE schools that try to brush bullying under the carpet - but this is Essex LEA, and we all know what happened to the dinner lady near us that got the sack for telling a girl's parents that their DD had been tied up and whipped with skipping ropes in the school playground by a group of boys (the parents had been told there was an 'incident' in the playground - not what had actually happened). Essex schools are really bad with this.

I disagree HuntyCat All schools are individual and policies and how the staff/governors deal with these things are not down to Essex LEA.

I live in Essex, I'm the Vice Chair at my local Infants...my sons go to Junior and Senior school and I can honestly say it's not an 'Essex thing'