to not get why FIL &BIL want to visit on our anniversary

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I'm being mean but .....

It's our wedding anniversary today. I've spent the afternoon cooking lovely dinner (DH normally cooks). Planned to stick kids in front of tv while I set the table ready for DH return, then throw kids in bath and dispatch them early.

DFIL babysat last night as we were out ( for our anniversary) and gave us a card But they both arrived at 5:30 as DBIL also wanted to give a card.

They are downstairs whipping children into frenzy, whilst apologising for disrupting my 'routine'

I feel like a numpty setting romantic table with them in next room.
DH not home yet but when he gets in he will have to chat to them while I put the kids to bed.

Am I weird? I always think anniversaries are just about the 2 people concerned.

Harrumph.

Oh I'm sure you'll get flamed but I could not agree more.

I never get it when families getting involved, it's very sweet to send a card or a text but really coming round??

I would say something really nicely/jokily along the lines of 'Oi you lot you'll need to clear out when dh is home as I'm cooking a romantic dinner for two'.

yanbu, i find it weird they have cards out there to buy for another couples anniversary.

If your DFIL babysat last night while you went out, maybe he thinks that was your anniversary celebration?

Either way, could you not text your DH to tell him that his dad and brother are here so when he gets in he needs to get rid of them asap because you have plans? That way hewont spend ages chatting to them. I -would also hint at the promise of bedroom action tonight to drive the point home.-- But that's just me.

No, I made it very clear to FIL last night that I was cooking dinner for 2.

YANBU, very odd for them to come around. It's lovely that you have such caring and friendly inlaws but seriously do they really want to see you and your DH making kissy noises at each other? Do you have any crotchless knickers nice lingerie that you could casually wave about as a hint?

Cailin

Ok so you need to just be pleasant but firm. 'Right we have romance to get on with! Thanks sooo much for the cards, come over for a cuppa on the weekend' etc etc.

DH has returned. I have conveyed my ire and told h his action is in danger

Perhaps your DH has a surprise for you?

No, the surprise was supposed to be taking me to my favourite restaurant on Saturday but FIL ruined it last night by 'accidentally' telling me.