To wish DP wouldn't be so touchy feely in public?

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He never used to be like this. It's a recent thing (developed over the past few months) and to be honest it's grating on me. He insists on holding my hand everywhere we go which is annoying at the best of times but even worse when it's a busy packed out street with little room to manoeuvre and even in shops. If we go out to the pub or anywhere he's all over me, arm around me, trying to hold my hand, constantly going to kiss me - I find it really embarrassing and a bit juvenile. He's late 30s, I've just turned 30. Is it an age thing? I know he'll be hugely offended if I say anything and will take it personally but it is so annoying. Today we went shopping and he tried to grab my hand to walk from the car into the store. I resorted to pretending to play with my phone so my hands were not free!! Inside the shop he notices some underwear he likes (for me!) and asks if I want them - he then starts saying quite loudly "oh your bum would look amazing in these, get these ones (holding up a thong etc) and there's people looking, other men walking past etc - I was just so embarrassed.

AIBU for feeling this way?

I don't know TBH. The affectionate thing sounds like my DH TBH, and I quite like it. Even the underwear thing is something DH would do, but he wouldn't say it loudly so other people would look. It would be said in a whisper to me and a little sly smile on his face.

I am sympathetic (very) but have to say that it would be a sadder post if you had come on here wishing for more affection.

I suspect your DP may be rather proud of you. Again, that can grating but better than the other way round.

It sounds a little like he is trying to assert ownership for some reason to me. Is he a little insecure? DH and I hold hands everywhere, but it is the norm for us.

YABU to wish it, and not just tell him. Perhaps he just thinks it's being affectionate.

YANBU. You can't help feeling like that. If it makes you uncomfortable, you need to say something to him. Try to say it nicely, that's all you can do. Tell him to take the lead from you. Then maybe do something nice for him to make up for his hurt feelings and show him that you still want to be affectionate but in private. You can't spend your whole life cringing.

Never stop holding hands with your husband in public. It just means that he is showing affection for you. I go out anywhere now and I miss the holding of hands. Think of yourself as lucky that he is keen enough to hold your hand.

Kissing in public, for me, is infra dig and should not take place because it's a private matter and not what others want to see the way some people go about it these days.

I wouldn't like the public announcement about underwear! Perhaps he eneds to be taught some manners?

Talk to him! Tell him too much public affection makes you feel uncomfortable.

My DH tends to suggest knickers that would suit me and then puts them on his head in the middle of the shop....you're lucky yours doesn't, believe me

Would this be the same not-so-D P who goes doolally when you talk to a male friend, raves on about how other men all want to shag you (or you want to shag all other men), whines if you go out without him and demands to know what knickers you're wearing when out with your pals? Sounds like a charmer

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YANBU If it makes you uncomfortable then you shouldn't have to put up with it. You do need to tell him though, I doubt if he's psychic.

Oh God, I used to go out with a guy like this. It was so SMOTHERING. He'd always be trying to kiss me - in the car, when I was eating my tea, on the street, ALL THE EFFING TIME. It sounds nice, but quite frankly I wanted to punch him.

if he wasn't like that in the past, I wonder why he has changed?

who are you talking about garlic - OP's dp?

If my DP stopped holding my hand I'd be quite upset. We kiss in public but only little pecks nothing more. The underwear thing would annoy me.

I find hand holding and putting your arm across someone's shoulder ok in public but I would hate, absolutely hate, being groped in public

What is weird about holding your husbands hand in public? I think its a little strange that you dont like him doing this.

However is garlics description if your dh is as she described I can underrstnad it.

You sound a right miserable cow to me! I love holding hands with my missus. When you said PDAs I assumed you meant he was trying to snog you and get all cutesy wootsy constantly but being anti-holding hands? Seriously?

Yes, ZZZ.

oh boy. I think you'd be wise to reconsider this relationship OP.