To desperately want another baby?

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I have two lovely children already, eldest has severe sn, youngest desperately wants a brother or sister.
I have a complicated obstretic history which has resulted in 5 late 1st trimester miscarriages (after my dc's were born)
I really, really want another child and have done for ages hence all the miscarriages.
I have two seperate clotting disorders which have caused the mc's,in my last pregnancy I was treated medically but still lost the pregnancy :(
Dh would love another child but is understandably very concerned.
Another fact to add in is my long term history of depression.
All of this should have a rational person saying stop enough but the yearning for another child is so very strong.
So aibu?

Of course YANBU to want one.

And YANBU to consider trying again, as you are taking your complicated history into account when making your decision.

Best of luck whatever you decide.

Yanbu. All the best of luck to you.

of course yanbu

but you unfortunately have some issues in this area, bless your heart

good luck whatever you decide

but please try and address depresson issues (as I am sure you are) as this IMO is the main issue for you xxx

Yanbu I've had two early mc and have just lost ds4 at 20 weeks due to ic. I also suffer from pprom

I still think we will ttc again, even though I sometimes think we should perhaps stop now. It's very difficult when you desperatly want another baby

Good luck there are some really supportive threads in conception for people ttc after mc xx

Moomins I am so sorry about the loss of your ds :(
Thank you for all your words.
I think deep down I want people to say don't be so bloody stupid, why are you putting yourself and family through that all again.
After my last mc I was certain that this was the end but 8 months later am not to sure and am incredibly broody again.
My depression is stable atm due to a hefty dose of anti depressants but has always dipped worryingly when ever I lose another pregnancy.
Have a coil in so not even thinking of ttc atm plus am 37 next year - 10 years after I had my last dc.

Bump :)

You are not alone. Have two DC one with quite severe autism. I will be 39 next year.

Not trying at the moment, have had a couple of mcs and an ectopic - though all before the severity of DS' SN was obvious.

It would probably be v selfish of us to have another. So we're currently on no.

But it smarts.

YANBU at all for wanting another beloved child.

It's hard to accept that you won't have one.

Many women don't accept that they are truly ready to stop until they can have one more child than they can really cope well with, and have experienced all the family stress that goes with this situation. This is me. My third child has ASD - I didn't plan for that.

Shit SF, neither did I. You can't plan life down to the last detail though. I bet you 'cope' well, like we all do (because we have no choice ).