to be so annoyed with my partner??

[Firefly2]

ok so last week we had a girly football match to raise money for the school. We were short of players so my partner joined in. He was being marked by this girl who is a real attention seeker. during the match to mess about he grabbed her bib to stop her getting to the ball. She screamed out loud 'oi get off!' in a flirty manner and I am furious with him, 1) because he had no business pulling at another woman's clothes and 2) he knows how I feel about her and how she loves to think everyman fancies her. He claims he meant nothing by it but I can't help feeling annoyed with him!! what do you think? am I unreasonable for being annoyed with him?! Or does he deserve the silent treatment I am currently going for?!!

TobeyLeWolef - Jeepers lighten up, it's just a term used. Some women will have come accross women like that, others won't. No need for such strong language...

If she is as you describe, nothing will stroke her ego like hearing that you are pissed off with your DP about HER, especially if she can role her eyes and say 'We were only messing about. What a bunny boiler, etc'.

I read (somewhere, can't remember where, might have been here a message from a person who'd been married for yonks) on the subject of jealously. she said that, whenever she or her partner got a little crush on someone else (as is, I think, inevitable in a LTR) the other would deal with it by delightedly and wickedly teasing their partner about their infatuation so it was out in the open. I thought this sounded really great, - although you'd have to have reasonably strong self-esteem and r/ship to take it.

But if you can summon the necessary joie de vivre, it can be a good way to difuse jealous and shrink it down to its proper place. I do this from time to time with my boyf, - if an especially 'warm' friend of his calls I always say 'it's your guuurlfriend. You wuv her' and make kissing noises while he's on the phone.

I honestly don't think it's necessary for me to 'lighten up'. I think it's disgusting how awful some women are to each other, and mainly due to their own insecurities.

Cosmopolitan really refer to some women as 'Dog Whistlers'

It may have been about 20 years since I last read Cosmo - but I don't remember it being quite so full of misogynistic bollocks.

BTW OP YABU - but I'll let you off as you sound about 14

Cosmo is a massive load of rubbish, - I was prettty surprised last time I read an issue. I was at the hairdressers, and I thought 'Oh goody. Big fat issue of Cosmo, what a guilty pleasure' and tucked in without delay.

Five minutes later, I realised I'd leafed through the whole thing without there being a single article, list, quiz or even picture of an expensive shiny thing to hold my attention for more than a few seconds.

I think your problem here is not the fact your DH pulled the bib of a woman you don't like in the heat of a footy match, but the fact you read cosmo and buy into the shit of phrases like "dog whistler" which make you paranoid, insecure and needlessly suspicious of other women.

Ditch the magazine. Treat your DH for an evening as punishment for reading this woman repressing hatred.

What quietlyafraid said.