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To think that if DD's IEP

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 12:14

States that due to her Auditory Processing disorder, the teachers need to write her homework down in her homework diary for her so that I can help her to complete it, and it has been handed to every single one of her teachers - that the teachers should damn well WRITE the homework in her diary for her, and NOT give her detentions for not understanding the homework (thus being unable to complete it) when they haven't written it down to enable her to understand it??

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ColdToast · 14/11/2011 14:08

YANBU.

I have a ds with SN who finds it difficult to write quickly. His form tutor e-mailed his teachers and asked them to make sure that they gave enough time for work to be written down, and not to just write it on the board as the class is leaving.

The teachers have approached this in different ways. Some have the homework pre-printed on sticky labels, which the class then just stick in to their books. Some quickly check that ds has written the work down correctly, and add anything he's forgotten. Others write the whole thing down for him.

This is a fairly ordinary mainstream comprehensive school with 250+ children in each year group.

NotOurRabbit · 14/11/2011 14:18

Your DD needs to ask the teacher to write the HW for her when it is given to the class or at the end of the lesson and make sure that she has the HW diary when she leaves the classroom.

She needs to take responsibility for this herself.

I think it's unfair to expect the teacher to ask your DD for her diary. I think it's unfair to blame the teacher because your DD "forgets".

Has your DD got other SN which make it hard fir her to remember to do this?

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 14:20

Thing is, without doing the homework, my DD has no hope of learning enough to get any exam passes. Because while she may not have understood the work in class, I can take the time to discuss the subject at home with her in order to have her actually take IN some of it. While HE might seem like the sensible solution - I also have 3 other dc, a 9yo who is working 3yrs ahead of his yr group, a 7yo who also has asd and other additional needs, AND a 9mo baby. Oh - and I have uncontrolled epilepsy myself. . HE, though I have seriously lookad into it in the past, just isn't an option with DD - she needs school so she can learn to socialise, as I do not have the funds or transport to get to HE groups.

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 14:23

Notourrabbit - YES, she has other additional needs. She has memory problems caused by her epilepsy. She is partially deaf. She tires easily due to having two leaky heart valves that will be replaced during open heart surgery when she is 16yo. She has asd. She also has hypermobility syndrome as well as her APD. Oh, and she has dyslexia and dyscalculia too. Happy?

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 14:24

Yet she is in Mainstream education, and doesn't even have a statement (not for want of me trying, I might add - I have applied for a statement 18 times over the last 9 years, but because she doesn't have behavioural difficulties, I am fighting a losing battle with Essex LEA there.). She is on School Action Plus.

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 14:26

She tends to sit quietly in the classroom, not learning anything. But because she is not disruptive, she is left to quetly sit doing not very much. Because she can't access most of the curriculum without the LSA's help.

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NessaRose · 14/11/2011 14:52

Is it worth going to your MP?

bitsnbobs · 14/11/2011 17:14

YANBU, same problem here with my Ds. He has a laminated sheet to help him remember things and guess who lost it last week?! I think they believe he is deliberately forgetting but he is often in tears when he remembers too late that he has forgotten something. I have to double check everything in the morning and remind him constantly. I feel your pain! IEP seems to been bugger all tbh. I am getting a full assessment done in the hope he will get more help.I had memory probs and have found out recently that I have ADD. I was always getting in trouble at school/home for forgetting everything

PrincessScrumpy · 14/11/2011 17:29

If Senco isn't returning calls, call the head and demand a meeting.

Memoo · 14/11/2011 17:40

Can I suggest that you seriously look into alternative schools for you dd. The SENco not returnIng your calls is shockingly poor! The teachers sound rubbish too. If they don't have time to write it down in class they could do it before hand and then just stick it in her book. Every child should receive adequate support to allow them to achieve their full potential and it sounds to me the school are seriously failing your dd.

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 18:12

Alternative schools...hahahahaha. The next closest Secondary school has an even worse record for helping pupils with SN, refused to give her more than 10 minutes a week help even in Y7 when she was working on NC level 1 (a 5yo level), AND requires a bus journey, with a walk that includes crossing 4 MAIN ROADS - it just wouldn't be SAFE for DD to make that journey alone, and I am a Lone Parent and I have to travel my two DS's (7yo and 9yo) by bus to school in the OPPOSITE DIRECTION. Hahahaha at there being any other option for school for DD.

ALL Mainstream schools will fail my DD - all I can do is choose the LEAST bad for her, and do as much as I can at home with her to enable her to access some sort of education.

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Memoo · 14/11/2011 18:56

Ok, that told me then, I was actually trying to help but won't bother if it's going to get such a reaction.

nailak · 14/11/2011 19:05

Am I missing something or don't the other kids write it down? And there's normally a few kids in every lesson together, so cant she remember to meet with them once a day and copy their homework diary?

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CardyMow · 14/11/2011 19:52

Sorry, Memoo - It is just such a sore point at the moment. I got a bit ranty - I apologise. .

She doesn't share lessons with any of her friends - they are all in higher sets than her. There is only one other girl in her set - and she is moving to France Next week, after being attacked quite severely by another girl who WAS in their set but has been permanantly excluded, so DD will then be the only girl in her set.

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vj32 · 14/11/2011 20:04

Have you spoken to DD's tutor. They could at least send a message round to her teachers as a reminder, which might help a bit in the short term.

Hulababy · 14/11/2011 20:11

The homework should be written on the teacher's lesson plan.

All the teacher needs to do is photocopy the relevant part or print the homework statement out a second time so that it can be placed/stuck in your DD's homework diary. If your DD had a stick of glue on her she could stick it in the relevant page as it is handed to her.

Then the teacher needs to make a mark in his/her register to remind them to give it to your DD.

Hulababy · 14/11/2011 20:12

Also - if this is on her IEP then do not allow your DD to do any detentions for missed homework if it has not been written in her diary for her.

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