To send a FB friend request to DP's friend?

[Christiola]

Went out with DP for his mate's birthday last night (with a few of the birthday bloke's other mates.) First time I'd ever met him but I thought he was hilarious and definately someone I'd like to go out with again (with DP etc obviously).

Is it a bit sad to send him a friend request or is that normal these days? will it look weird?

Is he on your DPs friend list? If so, I would just say to your DP that you are sending the mate a FR...

Weird to be angsting over it. Just do it. Or don't do it. HTH

yes he's on his friend's list

Think it's fine
Do you fancy him?!

Hmm, not sure about that, he's your DP's mate, you barely know him. Depends on your social media policy I guess.

Don't think I would bother, purely cause if it was DH's friend I'd expect him to make any arrangements.

But likewise I am friends with some of DH's friends and vice versa, and I'm not sure how it came about so I don't find it that odd.

If this guy has loads of people on his friends list, then he is probably happy to have lots of people on there. If he has less than 50 on his freinds list, then he is probably a bit choosy, and I wouldn't send the request.

What is sad is that you are worrying about it. Does it matter if you are friends on FB or not?

I don't fancy him (he's very young lol) but DP always gets funny about stuff like this so it makes me second guess everything and probably think about it more than I should. The guy has around 600 friends so doesn't seem all that choosy lol

If your dp would be odd with it (which would make me ) then why do it? Are you planning to become friends in your own right? Cause otherwise why bother?

Me and my husband have got about 75 mutual friends on FB.. all people we know.. some are my mates that he has added, some are his mates that I have added... its not a big deal at all.

I haven't even got my dh on my facebook

Why is your DP odd about it?

Why on earth not??

Have you got his other friends on your fb?

I only have friends on mine.

"DP always gets funny about stuff like this so it makes me second guess everything and probably think about it more than I should"

That sounds massively tiresome for you, OP

I don't tend to add dh's friends unless they are my friends too iyswim. But if they add me I accept them.

If you feel funny about it then there is a reason you shouldn't do it.

weird

Just don't.

we tend to get friend requests from people straight after parties... think it is normal and doubt friend woud read anything untoward into it...

I probably wouldn't if your partner is going to be funny about it. Can't see why he would be though Some folks are weird. Personally I have some of my partner's friends, and he has some of mine, and it's quite normal to send requests to mutual friends - though in my case I wouldn't do it straight after I'd met.