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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

or am i over reacting? - carseats.

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SlothAttack · 13/11/2011 18:09

I have never, ever let my kids get in a car without the correct carseat.

Seeing as though we don't drive this has meant waiting in the rain / cold / hail quite a few times for a bus as I won't accept a lift if we don't have carseats.

DH and I have always been togtther on this.

We've had quite a few comments from our parents about it but always stood by it.

His sister has just visited with her fiancee and when he was going the kids got in the car and he drove round the block with them a couple of times, the had seatbelts on.

I was ghaving a lie down as im not well and didn't realise till the drove back

DH is saying 'o big deal'

whereas I am kivid he let them as he always gets on his high horse over carseat safety and our little ave always has nobbers speeding at 60mph round the tight corners.

I a pised off because i fee he's being 'chilled' because its his side of the family.

if my mum did it they would never be alowed in the car again.

AIBU?

OP posts:

TheOriginalFAB · 13/11/2011 18:37

It is irrelevant really what the law says. Kids need to be safe in the car.

auntiepicklebottom2 · 13/11/2011 18:46

scotsgirls, i bet that was scary, but make sure you replace that carseat as it is now not safe

3cutedarlings · 13/11/2011 18:48

YANBU and any one here that says you are, in my book totally irresponsible, by law they have to be on at least a booster seat, unless its an emergency. I trust your DC know that they need a car seat to be safe? by letting them go on just a short trip your DH/BIL is basically saying that its ok to brake the law. Totally agree with i would be angry too.

I cant stand people that dont take car seat safety seriously.

scotsgirl23 · 13/11/2011 19:21

yup, already searching for replacement- DH was a little unimpressed when I told him it needed binned but no chances being taken on that front.

TaperJeanGirl · 13/11/2011 20:29

I am really strict on car seats, and have a 6 year old and 4 year old who always use high backed boosters in our car, and normal boosters in my mums car, I would never let them travel without, in any case the 4 year old is a shrimp who would be strangled by the seatbelt without one yanbu to be angry.

Dancergirl · 13/11/2011 20:33

lelainapierce - my nearly 9 year old has a proper car seat with a back and my 10 year old dd has only just come out of hers!

I wouldn't put a 5 year old on a booster cushion - no protection for the head, neck and spine.

Dialsmavis · 13/11/2011 20:35

As others have said; I thought the benefit of boosters is nil-negligible?

auntiepicklebottom2 · 13/11/2011 20:35

it takes along time for a Bill to become a law, it is not just dreamt of overnight and i belive laws are there to protect people.

driving laws are no diffrent to other types of laws and they should be followed

Mollydoggerson · 13/11/2011 20:40

I don't understand why a bus is more safe.

I think most accidents happen local to your home, but most serious accidents occur on main roads.

I think yabalittleu.

plupervert · 13/11/2011 20:54

Not only was it an unnecessary journey, it sounds as though he is also being a hypocrite (or wimp) about what his side of the family does. Also, are you going to have problems standing firm on this issue (to the kids as well as to ILs) now that this totally unnecessary precedent has been set?

plupervert · 13/11/2011 21:20

Sorry, your parents as well.

ByThePowerOfGreyskull · 13/11/2011 21:41

Ok, I have just been looking at this site and as much as my children are in seats and will be for much longer than is legally necessary.

How tall is your 6 year old? Mine was measured last week and is 134 and therefore only 1cm off the legal minimum.
It is difficult call. I too would be cross that our views on it had been disregarded.

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SlothAttack · 13/11/2011 23:39

my 6 year old uses a high back booster and my 5 year old is small and still in 5 point harness seat.

Its not BILS fault, he doesn't have kids and just likes to play with the kids, am pissed with DH for not stepping in and saying 'No, theres no seats in the car'

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PeelThemWithTheirMetalKnives · 14/11/2011 00:11

YANBU because your DH has changed the rules.

However have a look at the research cited by MrsTerryPratchett above in Superfreakonomics. Things aren't always as clear cut as they may seem, even when it comes to children's safety.

flyingspaghettimonster · 14/11/2011 20:01

It doesn't matter what other people do - your kids, your rules. I get so mad at one Mum from the school who promises not to take my kid in her truck or car (no car seat) when I have told her repeatedly she can borrow a car seat or even my car if she likes... Then I find out she has taken the kids 20 minutes away on a motorway to some park, only the adult safety belts. Grrrrr... her kid gets a car seat, but mine isn't so valuable??! She has done this even since we tod her how unhappy it made us, so we haven't let the kids go to their house since...

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