To wonder what kind of neighbour you are?

[Mooja]

Not a thread about a thread
I read so many posts on here complaining about neighbours, and whilst I agree that some sound horrible and I would hate to live next to them, some complaints just make me wonder what the OP would do if the situation was reversed.

I know that DP and I try to be very considerate, but when it comes down to it we do what is best for us (I'm talking about minor things here not like attaching scaffolding without permission!)

So AIBU to think that most people generally put themselves before their neighbours when making decisions about their home and the way they live...or am I just selfish?

I'm a miserable anti-social bitch who doesn't think anyone should have a fun/ parties/ children playing loudly (of course unless it's me and my pfb) I don't want to be polite and make small talk and definitely don't want to know the ins and outs of your life! I live in a semi which next door has been vacant since we moved in 4 years ago. It's been great . The fucker was sold on Weds I'm in for big surprise aren't I?

We're godparents to next door's dd, they're godparents to our ds. Didn't know them until we moved here. We all look out for each other, have a summer party for the whole street every September and sing carols on Christmas Eve.

Mix of ages and experiences, we are very glad we moved here :)

DH is the most laid back neighbour recently went out in his boxers at 1am and lost it at our theiving arsonist teenage neighbour, he'd lifted the fence panel to climb and help himself to some wood at the bottom of our garden cos he was having his 6th bonfire of the summer and had ran out of shit to burn.

I was such a proud grumpy wife.

I would say we are pretty good. We are in a ground floor flat, occasional noise mostly when my teenage daughter is having a strop. We don't have music on loud, washing machine on late etc, but would do if I really needed to. I can hear my upstairs neighbour's machine on late sometimes.

We have taken in many parcels (annoying once when no-one was available to take in a parcel for us one day!)

The upstairs neighbour has a toddler, think coming up for 2 years old and she seems to love running about all over the place but it isn't anything to really complain about. There will be another baby next month so we will expect a bit more noise

I like to think I'm a good neighbour. I live in a semi-detached. Single Mum, 3 "darling" children. 2 who can be noisy as hell!

We keep quiet in the mornings (no shouting. DS1 is a shouter! A right foghorn).

The rest of the day, it's just me, and I tend to read or be on the laptop.

The kids are allowed to bound about and be boisterous in the back garden in summer but only til about 7pm. Plus, if I see the neighbours are having a rare BBQ, I tempt my lot in with treats to stop them peering over the fence .

I'd like to live next to me, put it that way

What we're good at: we don't play loud music, we don't fight, we'll take in parcels happily, we promptly collect parcels other people take in for us (provided the courier bothers to leave us a note), we'll do pet and garden duties if asked, we rarely do any DIY and what we do is at sociable hours (ditto vaccuming, on both counts), we have a drive and use it so don't add to on-road parking problems, we live two doors from one of DD's classmates and will do random short-notice school drop-offs and pick-ups.. We do our damnedest not to get embroiled in the ongoing feud between next-door and next-door-but-one.

Not so good: we don't keep the outside of the house as nice as I'm sure some of the elderly neighbours would like, DD plays the cello loudly (inevitable) and not entirely well (only been learning this term), we have two free-range cats who don't use their litter tray.

DontCallMeBaby I had a cat when I first moved in and one of the neighbours called round to ask me to stop it sh*tting in his garden.

I said I'd have a word with the cat but I couldn't be confident of success.

Luckily the cat 'moved out' some years later. He obviously found a more homely environment. I still see him around now and again. He ignores me. That's cats for you

Well according to the horrible old bag who lives next door to us we are the neighbours from hell

The reasons-we are not obsessive/ocd about the garden as they are. Yes they have a lovely garden. We dont as we mow/weed about 3 times a year-our choice. We leave toys out there because we have dcs.

We have a problem with the bins overflowing. Bin collection only every 2 weeks so even with recycling it is very hard to keep rubbish down. I also make sure any rubbish which wont fit in bin is double bagged and placed on top so as not to attract vermin. Actually I am glad they complained about this as council gave us giant new bin

Leaving our old sofa outside the house for 3 weeks. Council were supposed to come and pick it up but despite repeated phone calls it took this amount of time. Not our fault.

I think she is the neighbour from hell-and her wont say boo dh!-because I have lived next door to her for 10 years and she completely blanks me. Has seen me struggling with bags of shopping,kids and walked by me. Last year when we had horrendous weather I couldnt get the pram up the stairs to our street-literally-I was holding on to rail for dear life and screaming. Her and her dh walked by us! I hoep the nasty witch gets what she deserves.

duchesse - yes, I am.

I need to know - why the crisp packets?

Living in cities I've always done my best to avoid talking to neighbours. Since we moved to a village we know all the people on the street. The family at no. 1 look after our pets when we go away. We look after the rabbit at no.7. Ann at the end doesn't work so acts as a one woman neighbourhood watch. We all go to the pub together. It's lovely.

Also, there are 5 on street parking spaces for 7 houses, most of which have two cars. DP mentioned how difficult I was finding it walking from my car to the house if there aren't any spaces (I'm disabled and 6 months pregnant). since then, there has always been a space. Very grateful to everyone!

I get on OK with my neighbour, we will never be bosom buddies and think both of us like it that way.

We are both single parents of kids who we try really hard with. Recently she asked me to stop my 12 yr old "knocking" on her kid's wall as it was keeping him awake and asked us to have no noise upstairs after 8pm on weekdays.

I have moved my kid's bed away from the party wall - but we are really a bit paranoid about trying to have no noise upstairs - and we don't go to bed at 8pm!

But I panic if I hear my kids laughing loudly upstairs in case it wakes hers up. We live in semis.

I live in a multi-storey block so have quite a few neighbours to deal with.

We have the neighbours from hell upstairs. Constant banging into the wee small hours. Music blaring. Kids screaming as if they are being murdered.

I can't wait until we are rehoused