So last June I wrote this
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1236704-LONG-and-ranty-sorry-But-AIBU
I have pasted that link so readers have a history of DSD.
Since that thread it was agreed that she pay £35 a week which she started paying in July . Occasionally she has paid on time , mostly is late and usually its a tenner down because of insert excuse of choice here.
I have not made a fuss because to be fair she spends most days at her BFs ,(I need another thread for that , we have never met him and I have just heard he has recently come out of prison for knifing someone so I am worried sick )
All her post comes here, I recently noticed she was getting monthly letters for T-mobile which meant she had changed her provider. However she insisted she was on pay as you go and no contract was involved as we have always insisted that the kids cannot get any credit related stuff using our address. We have always prided ourselves on not getting into debt and never been black listed.
She came home this weekend and left a letter (in the bathroom, so I guess it was accidental) I saw it and to be fair I should not have read it once I realised it was to her but I make no excuses for that because once I saw it was from a debt collecting agency I felt I had every right.
The debt is from T-mobile who have passed it on to debt collecting agency after numerous attempts to come to some agreement with her regarding payment.
they disconnected her phone on 18Th October.
The amount she owes is almost £300!!
I am so angry , DH does not know, he will go ballistic.
Does this mean our address is already black listed ?
She still has a phone so must have changed her provider again!
I feel I am keeping secrets from DH which is something I have never done, but he does not know about this nor the fact that her BF did time for stabbing someone.
Its my dd who told me that as dsd told her and then said but don't tell anyone . So If I say anything, DH will definitely have it out with dsd and dsd will know that dd told me and that will create an almighty row and friction between them and the extended families which are joined through step relationships. My children and his will obviously take sides with their blood.
I am sick with worry..... yes I know I should not have read the letter but please AIBU regulars , please don't be too harsh with me on that one as that is not the issue here at the moment.
I should not have, but I did and now I cannot unknow the info no more than I can unknow the info re her BF because someone told me.
Well done and thank you if you get this far but I did not want to drip feed info and also needed to write it out to make some sense of it myself.
Thank you for reading