To not be as excited for ds2's 1st birthday.

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Ds2 is 1 a week before Xmas and I'm not excited about it like I was with my 1st ds (summer b-day). It just all seems a big chore tbh, that sounds awful. Is it 'normal' to feel like this or am I just awful?

I think it is because you have so much to do before Christmas you are feeling this way.
Make it special for your son though, as it is not his fault he was born in December.
My dd was born middle december and we always celebrate her birthday before the decorations go up for Christmas.

I think it's totally normal to get more excited about your 1st child's first everything. First birthday, first steps, first word, first taste of food etc...For DC1's birthday we had a party, loads of photos, balloons etc, for DC2's birthday I realised that he would not appreciate the effort or have a clue what was going on so I kept it much more low key.

Yes I understand...ds2 is 20th Dec...poor kid.
We make a big effort for him (he will be 4 this year) but I kwym....I don't feel it the same, just because of everything else happening at the same time.
Xmas birthdays suck.

I am ashamed to say I don't have half as many photos of DS2 in his first year than I do of DS1 pinky

Things like Toddler Group and Tumble Tots weren't as exciting second time round either.

Am I awful?

I'm kind of contrary on this one. I steadfastly declined to make any sort of fuss for DD's 1st birthday for the shameful reason that my MIL was ringing me every two days asking about what we were going to do for her. In the event she was horribly ill with a bug she'd picked up at her first week of nursery so I was glad we hadn't planned anything.

However, DS is just about to be 1, and DD is SO excited about his birthday. She really gets a bang out of presents and cards, even if not for her, so I think we actually will make a fuss, largely for her benefit!

But no, it's obvious that the second time around things won't be as exciting. It'll be different when they're older and have different activities - the first karate belt for one, the first piano exam for the other, kind of thing.

I'm exactly the same. Get really exited and go to a lot of effort for Dd1 birthday. Ds (dc 3) is two weeks later and

I'm glad it's not just me. I love both ds's the same etc but yeh Xmas birthday's suck! I have all my Xmas presents wrapped up but ds's birthday presents are in a bag in wardrobe still. I'm one of those people who puts the tree up as early as possible but I can't now until after his birthday either.

Do same things but it's much more of an effort. By time dd2 birthday comes a few weeks later I'm fed up of the whole thing ( and skint)
Still make sure she has a great day though

I got excited over ds 1st birthday it was a celebration I serviced a whole year with my pfb

I don't understand people who get excited over any 1st Birthdays to be honest.

It's not like the kid's going to remember it