To be weirded out

[missmalteser]

That my mil just asked for a loan of a pair of my underwear? She was going straight out from playing sports and didn't want to detour home and as she was stopping at ours anyway called dh and asked him to ask me, I feel really grossed out about this and poor dh was mortified, so as not to drip feed I will add mil generally has some boundary issue, and this is not the first time although the time before I offered as she was caught in the same position but I had literally bought a new few pairs that day which she knew about, this time tho they were not new and she put me on the spot as she was already on her way here, tbh if this was a friend I would feel weird enough, but is this not in a whole other league? sorry for lack of paragraphs I am posting from my phone

Oh no don't it is too painful to imagine, i was thinking of giving her my best bridget jones hip warmers while explaining how they would get rid of that little pot tummy in no time at all, but that would be mean
And i understand some people are just more open then others and that is fine, but surely a shudder of horror is fine on this occasion?

My MIL has bladder trouble...could MIL have peed her pants a bit? I know my MIL would ask meif she knew I had new ones and I wouldn't mind at all...but it would't be a loan!

I don't think she would have had any leakage, tbh this would also have been shared while asking... and if she did is that not even worse? I have just pissed my pants now I want to piss yours? eek! Our house is literally 5 mins in the car from hers so she could have went there, thats what puzzles me even more, the totally nonchalant, yeah its no big deal to ask thing, it made me wonder if iwbu to have vommed in my mouth at the thought.

It is weird if she lives so close! Next time she says something odd just look at her like this and say "Hmm....that's weird MIL!"

5 mins in the car???

Bloody hell. Get your DH better trained. 'No Mum, that's not appropriate. You live 5 mins from here, you can go home and get your own'.

No dilemma required.

YANBU. It is gross and bizarre.
A firm "NO, I don't lend out my underwear" would be perfectly appropriate and might even stop her asking again.

YANBU!
Too weird!!

I think I might be the only person here who isn't weirded out by this. I would do it and not think twice, but then, I have borrowed knickers from my mum when my period started unexpectedly (sorry, is that tmi?)

What I didn't like is wearing the same perfume as mil (which is unfortunate because I think we like some of the same ones). I don't want dh to think of his mum when he comes near me. I also got a bit twitchy when she admired my gorgeous new shoes and tried them on. again, I don't want to be wearing the same stuff as her. And, yet, I am not at all twitchy about the knickers.

(Possibly because I hardly ever wear any )

Haha KB maybe I should start telling her I've decided to go commando from now on!

My stepmother used to have all these packs of Sloggis in the linen cupboard and I was forever stealing them to get at her on the VERY PREMISE that YOU DO NOT SHARE KNICKERS.

I was a little bitch.

PS may I stress they were new and boxed, that being THE POINT of stealing them. Sharing underwear is WEIRD!

I lent my pants out once. Well, I gave them to her. It was an acquaintance who was going on to all an sundry in the pub how uncomfortable she was going commando. I was so I nipped home and got her a pair of mine.

The only time I have lent someone a pair of my knickers when was when my friend was miscarrying in my flat and had to go to hospital :( no way would I ever lend a pair to anyone else !

give her a pair of your dh's most 'distressed' undies next time

Oooh missM, I remember you from else where, and your fabulous MIL! lovely to hear she's not changed a jot! Personally I would not begrudge my MIL a pair of smalls, but would certainly not be looking for them back. I've borrowed my Mum's knickers in the past and don't find that odd, however, she lives quite a bit away from me - if I was 5 mins up the road (or she was near a shop that sold smalls) I would just pop home.

Another vote for your dh's underwear. Men's underwear is usually more substantial and has had less contact with orifaces and discharges. Also, he came out of her vagina, or at least grew up there, therefore less weird. She also has seen his 'area' several million times when changing nappies etc, so they have a level of closeness.

Also, if it upsets him, he can say no to his own mother.

Gavel

My MIL borrowed a pair of my knickers the day after DH and I got married. She'd stayed at ours for the night to babysit DC while DH and I were in a hotel. I was horrified that she'd been in my underwear drawer. :(

YANBU.

A SIMPLE 'NO' is all that is required.

Think I know what you should buy her for Christmas...?

Snigger. Def parcel up a job lot of Belly warmers and suggest she may wish to leave some at your house in case she is caught short again.......pointing out your knickers are for your husbands eyes only.........

It is weird and yanbu. What makes it weird is she lives so close so could get her own. What's wrong with her going commando? I do most of the time.

If it were me I'd give her some really crap knickers period ones a G string or a pair of dp's