WIBU To finally lose patience with my sister

[PizzaSlut]

And tell her to F off.

Bit of background, she split up with her partner 3 weeks ago and since then I have supported her whatever way I can, often at the expense of my own family.

I've been driving her everywhere, looking after her child when she needed to go out. I have been moaned at, had my life as a single parent gone over and told my life was so easy then. I have given practical advice as to claim benefits. Tried to sort her a car. Bought baby food for her despite us having no money.

There has been no empathy, no thanks. The final straw came this morning when I offered to lend her something she needed and only asked for at 7.30 last night. when I said I'd take it over in the afternoon after I had finished my errands and long before she needs it. She had a screaming fit and demanding it straight away. At that point I screamed at her to f off and stop being so self absorbed and put the phone down.

So AIBU or should I continue to support her at the level she wants.

How old is she? 12? Get her a ladder and tell her to get over herself.

Yanbu. Let her simmer down and come to you. Unacceptable behaviour. You've done enough. She's an adult. ( presuming she is an adult )

She is 30. She is not working.

She has alienated her ex mil, who was an absolute god send to her by refusing to let her see her grandchild. She is hassling my Aunt and asking for her help and runnning around for her and babysitting. This is a woman who has a terminally ill husband to care for.

We all appreciate she is having a hard time but she really needs to realise the world does not revolve around her.

YANBU. And possibly, neither was her partner for leaving her, if this behaviour predates the split .

Sounds like she is about to learn the hard way that people doing you favours do not like to be ordered around and screamed at!

I your name pizzaslut!

OOps forgot the important YANBU!

She sounds like a tool.

Yanbu

YANBU - she needs a wake up call.

hopefully your sister will have a lightbulb moment and realise the world doesnt revolve around her.

She isnt the first or last person to have a shit time and she needs to realise help and favours are to be appreciated.

YANBU

I'm not sure she does. Having a child has not changed her into a less selfish person, in fact if anything she has got worse.

The fact is she puts her own needs before the baby's, she sits around watching TV all day or playing on facebook. Whenever you visit there is never any interaction between them, there are no toys out. She refused to buy her a £2 beaker she needed because she had no money then proceeded to buy 2 bottles of wine for a "friend"'s birthday when I took her shopping.

Its too much effort to get her into a routine, so the child is very hard work and demanding to look after.

I think the partner scarpered because frankly she is a nightmare to live with.