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I posted this in Property but didn't get the sympathy I need so AIBU ...

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 18:40

to post it here too?

AIBU to want to beat the arseholes who have just decided they don't want our house!

They viewed 2 months ago. They had a cash buyer and needed to move quickly. It was imperative that their son sees the house before they decided, and it had to be that weekend but they couldn't give me an exact time.

So we cancelled our plans

And they didn't turn up. They said sorry, son couldn't make it, would come the next weekend.

So we cancelled our plans again (I had been waiting 2YEARS for this weekend). They didn't turn up.

One month after viewing they made an offer. No second viewing, no son, just made the offer. Their buyer had been waiting 6 MONTHS so could we find somewhere quickly with no onward chain.

We viewed and fell in love with a property. It took us 10 days, but we had a nice short chain. 4 people.

Our buyers wouldn't give EA their Solicitors. 2 weeks later, no, son has to see it before we commit (WTF what is an offer if not commitment?)

They were going to come down last weekend. Didn't come. Monday we hear that this is becuase of the accident on the M5. Friends of theirs - 20 miles away from us and near the accident - said the roads were very busy. OURS WEREN'T !

Today is exactly one month since the offer. The val was done on our new property today. EA rang our buyers to chase them up AND THEY PULLED OUT AS THEY DIDN'T WANT TO MESS US ABOUT.

Thank you for reading this far - (if you have) I was hoping writing it down would make me feel better. It didn't, I still want to beat the crap out of him.

The EA has just rung me and said, there is a chance that he may want to continue at a later date. My reply was not polite.

The house I have set my heart on - they had two offers on the table, they chose us. So I imagine that Monday I will receive a phone call that winds me up even more.

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MrTumblesBum · 11/11/2011 18:41
Sad

Wine Wine and more Wine for you.

keepingupwiththejoneses · 11/11/2011 18:43

That is terrible behaviour. I am so sorry you have been messed about. I bet the EA wont be dealing with them again.

blackoutthesun · 11/11/2011 18:46

thats shit!! Sad

have lots of Wine

fedupofnamechanging · 11/11/2011 18:47

Poor you. Some people are just totally shit. Wishing you dream buyers next time, cos selling a house really is incredibly stressful.

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 18:48

Thank you Mr TumblesBum. Please can I have the glasses filled with Gin? - I don't think wine is strong enough

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 18:49

It's taken over a year to get to this point. We have had the house off the market for 4 weeks when the market is traditionally quite good. Now it is crap. Who wants to buy a house this close to Christmas?

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herbietea · 11/11/2011 18:53

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 18:58

We knew they were going to be difficult but we expected the opposite - have to move quickly, want to bring stuff to us before completion, etc. I was even expecting gazundering. Not this though. I know his wife adores the house, but he's old school - the little woman will just have to do as she's told type Angry

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ElderberrySyrup · 11/11/2011 18:59
Wine

It's sloe gin, hence the colour.
They sound so clueless they probably don't even realise they are doing anything wrong. I mean, FGS, you view the house with whoever you need to before you offer, you don't make an offer and then say 'oh we didn't mean it, ds hasn't seen it'. Confused

marriedinwhite · 11/11/2011 19:04

My father, who was a very mild mannered gentleman, would have lost his cool and called them "bar stewards"! Next time you won't agree to stop marketing for more than a week though will you. And you do know that a better house might turn up for you, or that the one you think you love now might turn out to have dry rot or rising damp.

Poor you WineWineWine"

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 19:05

Thank you ElderberrySyrup - thats better.

Its not as if the son will even be living here.

The EA read out the requirements that this couple had, whch were weird, - and our house hit every criteria even down to having no fussy flowerbeds! Its taken them 6 months to find something - if I was their buyer I would pull out now as its clear they do not want to move.

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 19:06

No dry rot

No rising damp

Roses round the door

[sob]

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HalfTermHero · 11/11/2011 19:13

That is awful. Your ex buyers are a bunch of cunts to behave like that. Sad. Defo mucho alcohol. I can't think of anything else that might help xx

ZillionChocolate · 11/11/2011 19:16

Wankers.

valiumredhead · 11/11/2011 19:19

URGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHH moving house is awful and wouldn't wish the stress on my worst enemy!

Jix · 11/11/2011 19:20

Name and shame them so other sellers can be warned!!

If nothing else you will feel better :)

Original poster
MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 19:21

I've run out of gin

Texting DH to pick up more

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 19:24

Oh I wish I could name & shame

More to the point - if the wankers DS or DDil is an MNer - I hope you are suitable ashamed!

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AteAWholePacketOfBiccys · 11/11/2011 19:24

When my mum was 2 days over due with me the buyers of her house changed their minds. At half past ten. Due to sign contracts at half past eleven.
Someone withdrew the offer on my house, by sending me a text that went something like this;
'Soz cn't buy yr hse now'

When someone was due to view my house for the second time (I also cancelled my plans, waited for hours,had made plans for dog and childcare, done a tidy up) they didn't turn up. I phoned the place where the had mentioned the worked and they actually answered the phone. I asked if it was them.
They said 'errrrr no, she works somewhere else now. Its eeeerrrr Jane. Jane Smith. I'll pass the message on when she's back on Monday.
sigh
Peoples morals dissapear when buying houses. Strange but true.

billgrangersrisotto · 11/11/2011 19:30

The house buying process desperately needs rethinking. Honestly, a party with this on their manefesto could probably win a general election on the strength of this alone. Why is it never tackled?!

levantine · 11/11/2011 19:31

Oh that is just awful. Lots of sympathy here. Bastards

AteAWholePacketOfBiccys · 11/11/2011 19:34

In the end you will end up with a lovely house and you will sat on your sofa with a glass of wine and a bloody massive box of chocolates (well deserved after the house buying and selling process) and it'll all be worth it.

Whatmeworry · 11/11/2011 19:43

The house buying process desperately needs rethinking. Honestly, a party with this on their manefesto could probably win a general election on the strength of this alone. Why is it never tackled?!

Very vested interests....

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MrsZoidberg · 11/11/2011 19:46

I thought the Scottish system was weird but now I wish we had it

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FruStefanLindman · 11/11/2011 19:48

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

But as soon as your potential purchasers refused to give their solicitor's details to your EA, it should have rung big alarm bells with your EA and they should have warned you. Unfortunately an offer isn't necessarily a commitment - although it is with most normal people.

As people have said up-thread, the house buying process in England and Wales needs a major shake-up.

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