I will start by saying that DH moved from the leafy London suburbs 12 years ago to be with me (220 miles north) and I don't usually begrudge him the occasional trip back to visit friends, however this year, I feel is a step to far.
He has three nights / trips planned.
Trip 1 - A night out with colleagues fairly locally on Children in Need night. DH will be driving, so no turning up drunk at 3am, but with it being CIN our three DCs (aged 2, 4 and 6) will be at a party, which I will have to attend alone - not a huge deal, but easier with two parents.
Trip 2 - this a trip away to Germany for two nights mid-week. It started with a one-off trip three years ago to celebrate Christmas and the retirement of a popular colleague and has since evolved into an annual trip. I don't really object, they keep costs down and I've manage to sort out childcare etc.
Trip 3 - is where the problems start with the trip to London. It was originally planned for the weekend before Christmas (go Saturday, back Sunday) with my Christmas meal on the Friday ( I will add in here that I did offer to miss this as DH had a 4th meal planned with partners - I agreed to go on that meal instead of mine, but it has since been cancelled and my meal was back on). The chosen weekend wasn't ideal as it is the only Saturday we have free to do something Christmassy with the children, but we agreed to keep the Monday free.
So the problem is that it has been changed to the Friday - the night of my meal. I will have to collect the children from school early as it's the last day of term, get one to speech therapy, two to swimming (including tea with friends after) and get home and ready by 7.
I don't think it can be done and will probably cancel mine - not a huge deal BUT DH thinks it's so easy to manage and has even suggested that on the Saturday I get the train (with children) down to London and that I should see it as an adventure - my comment that I would rather have root canal treatment than do that journey had not gone down well.
So ladies of the jury AIBU to not be full if smiles for his weekend plan? I would never say don't go, or sulk for days, but I did not jump for joy!
I will be back later (after speech therapy, swimming and tea) to hear the verdict.