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To think the parents of the bully should be ashamed for bringing this case

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maypole1 · 10/11/2011 23:33

A father who grabbed a nine-year-old bully by the scruff of the neck has been granted an absolute discharge.

The boy came to Simon Humphreys' door at his home in Comrie, Perthshire, and began taunting the 38-year-old after a run-in with his son.

Mr Humphreys eventually lost his patience, took the boy by the collar and marched him to his gate. He was charged with assault.

The court heard there was a background of bullying of the son in this case.

Sheriff Lindsay Foulis' decision to let Mr Humphreys escape any punishment was greeted with a burst of applause on the public benches at Perth Sheriff Court.

Simon Humphreys took the boy by the scruff of his neck after he refused to leave his garden

The sheriff said it was a sign of the times that he had been charged with assault for an act which would have been the norm a few years ago.
Swing row

He said: "It strikes me that not so long ago this sort of incident would never have seen the light of day. It would have been viewed as something that happens on occasions.

"It certainly wouldn't have troubled a court of law. I say that without criticising the procurator fiscal's office because they have to deal with things in a different environment now.

"It strikes me that it is the duty of the court to take an appropriate view. There was a background in this case of bullying of your child."

The court was told the boys had been fighting earlier in the day after a row about a swing and that Mr Humphreys and his wife had punished their son by sending him to his room.

"Then the perpetrator comes to the door and is behaving aggressively, pointing at you, and is not prepared to leave despite you asking him to on several occasions," the sheriff added.

"You put a hand behind his neck and pushed him to the gate. In these circumstances I consider it wholly appropriate to grant an absolute discharge."

It means Mr Humphreys, who has no previous convictions of any kind, will not have the conviction on his record.

The court heard the father accepted he had assaulted the boy at his home on 27 June because he had put a hand on him to push him out of the garden.

Police were called after the boy - who was aware the incident had been witnessed by other people - told his parents what had happened.

Outside court, Mr Humphreys said: "I regret the whole thing and I'm glad it's over. We live in a small village and don't want to say anything else."

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maypole1 · 10/11/2011 23:36

What gone wrong that the police actually arrested the guy in the first place

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Sharney · 10/11/2011 23:40

I think the next worse thing to having DD be bullied would be for her to be a bully. Those parents should be ashamed for having a son who behaves in such a way. I think I'd move.

bnm · 10/11/2011 23:53

That's the scary thing about living in a country that does not give any real thought about the real victims.

Rollon2012 · 10/11/2011 23:56

what bnm said

empirestateofmind · 11/11/2011 00:01

Poor man having gone through all that stress. Why did the boy's parents take this to the police? Their son is the one with a public stain on his character now. They didn't really think this one through in my opinion.

TwoIfBySea · 11/11/2011 00:03

YANBU but the parent's of the bully ABVU and should be utterly ashamed of themselves.

If either of my son's behaved in that manner I'd be taking them back to the house to apologise to everyone concerned! They'd then be grounded for a very long time.

The police are ridiculous dealing with these sorts of cases. Different if the guy had thumped the brat but he quite rightly wanted the little sod off his property.

caramelwaffle · 11/11/2011 00:03

Yanbu

MrsTerryPratchett · 11/11/2011 00:06

The bully was trespassing and was removed. How was it in the public interest to prosecute? YANBU.

startail · 11/11/2011 00:20

I resisted thumping the little darling who walked in and kicked my DD in the village shop. I even resisted thumping the relative that cornered me at the school gate for shouting at him for said incident.
I think I was very restrained given this relative seemed to think that it was perfectly ok to bully my DD simply because she's a bit eccentric.
I'm quite sure if I'd thumped either of them I'd have ended up in court.

Scholes34 · 11/11/2011 09:55

It's like The Slap all over again.

duckdodgers · 11/11/2011 11:50

This should never have been taken to court, what a waste of money. As a parent currently dealing with my DS being bullied by a neighbours son whos 10 I know how frustrating it all can be, nothing seems to get you anywhere. This boy is completely lawless, his Mum admits she cant control him.

Unfortunately he kicked off and attacked her in the street and my DH helped her get him in the house - we couldnt stand by and watch the poor woman assualted. Hes now got it in for my DS even more.

Because DS talks properly and is a "good" boy - this little shit calls him all sorts of horrible names and has hit him twice recently.

SusanneLinder · 11/11/2011 11:58

What a ridiculous case and a waste of public money! So glad the sheriff saw sense.

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