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to hate when people saying 'Going out with the girls'.

73 replies

elisadoeslittle · 10/11/2011 11:16

I'm sure I probably am being unreasonable. But whenever someone says they are going out with the girls, my teeth itch! I think it's because I imagine going out with the girls to be either a nice day trip with your 5 year old daughter and her little friends, or rampant women driven wild from being released from the daily grid getting lashed and dancing on tables.

It's crazy I know. But I say 'going out with friends'. I never differentiate the sex of my friends, it seems a bit arbitrary!

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newmum001 · 10/11/2011 11:42

Me too, especially when the person going out isnt a 'girl' and neither are her mates (mil I mean you!)

I have to admit that I do do the facebook "can't wait for saturday with my girls" thing though so I can't really judge others!

Ifancyashandy · 10/11/2011 11:42

Oh, I know how to have fun. Am still clutching frantically holding on to my youth. Am in ver ver high heels right now!

I am dreadfully badly behaved when I'm out....

...WITH MY FRIENDS!

lampli · 10/11/2011 11:45

I have noticed that the people who go out with the girls usually look quite haggard, possibly as a result of too many nights out with the girls.

talkingnonsense · 10/11/2011 11:47

And I am pretty sure that cake does solve everything...

mrsruffallo · 10/11/2011 11:48

LOL Lampli

It's latent lesbianism gone mad

AMumInScotland · 10/11/2011 11:49

My dad still goes out with "the boys" and he's past 70....

DaydreamDolly · 10/11/2011 11:51

What an odd thing to get your knickers in a twist about. I go out with the girls. I don't look haggard, we have fun but don't dance on tables. Why can't we all just be?? Why does everything have to be looked down upon? Women can be so judgemental about other women and that's what makes my teeth itch.

ViviPru · 10/11/2011 11:53

Arf @ UrsulaBuffay. Enjoying your wordsmithry.

Proudnscary · 10/11/2011 11:59

I 'hang with my brethren/blood/fam'

FoxyRoxy · 10/11/2011 12:08

I go out with the girls sometimes, and I go out in a mixed group sometimes. It's just a way of differentiating between the two groups. I know I'm a woman, it's just a turn of phrase.

And we dance on tables sometimes Shock

DoesNotGiveAFig · 10/11/2011 12:19

I go out with the girls. We also have make-up club beforehand.

UrsulaBuffay · 10/11/2011 12:21

I 'roll with ma homies' sit on the couch with DH & DD

working9while5 · 10/11/2011 12:24

When I was a teenager, my mother and I used to have HUGE arguments about the use of the word "girls" because she believed... brace yourselves... that you were a girl until you were married and then you were a woman .

I don't have a "group of girls" either, certainly not ones I do shopping and cocktails with. Lots of diverse female friends, but few group together and those that do are from work. I'd actually quite like to have a group of female friends, but life just hasn't worked out that way, moved too frequently to ever establish a "group" and still haven't fully established myself where I live now.

UrsulaBuffay · 10/11/2011 12:25

I was a girl til I discovered doggy fashion then I was a doggy woman

Ifancyashandy · 10/11/2011 12:29

DoesNotGive is 'make up club' where you all get together and do your make up before you head out? Do you actually call it that?

If I am correct I can think of nothing worse, can I ask how old you are?

nethunsreject · 10/11/2011 12:32

Yanbu.

It's a gringeworthy phrase. Yuk, yuk, yuk. 'Girlie night in' is awful too. Unless you are 12, then it is fair enough.

DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 10/11/2011 12:36

"And who think cake solves everything."

You mean cake doesn't solve everything?

lampli · 10/11/2011 12:37

The shopping and cocktail thing annoys me too. I try to avoid shopping with friends as I will only end up buying unsuitable things which I then have to return. Where do people go for cocktails? The last time I had a cocktail I was a student. I can't imagine suggesting to anyone that we meet for cocktails. Does nobody go to the pub any more?

Clossaintjacques · 10/11/2011 12:39

YANBU

I hate the expression. It sounds so desperate especially when the 'girls' in question are over 40 FFS!

working9while5 · 10/11/2011 12:46

I am not at all girlie. Heaven, forfend! However, I have to admit that I find cake solves an awful lot of things.

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 10/11/2011 12:49

Well said Dolly

There are so many things out there to get your knickers in a twist about. Thank god for my feminist sisters twisting on my behalf - I don't notice/care about half of what I patently should.

Alouisee · 10/11/2011 12:50

We call it "a desperate day out" - as we are patently and obviously too old and stuffed full of neuro toxins to be girls.

lesley33 · 10/11/2011 12:54

"It's latent lesbianism gone mad"

What do you mean?

pigletmania · 10/11/2011 12:59

Yabu it keeps me feeling youthful, would rather that than the old hags Grin

handbagCrab · 10/11/2011 12:59

I can cope if it's women over a certain age but for everyone else it's sub sex and the city, diet coke break, marketing bollocks! IMHO :)

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