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AIBU to give stop DD1 doing her homework?

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flippymcflipster · 09/11/2011 21:24

DD1 (14) has got homework for PSHE/citizenship.
They have to bring in different newspapers and to stop duplicates teacher told class what papers to buy. (at random I'm presumming - I understand that completely)
DD1 asked if she could swap with someone - no they cant.
DD1 then said that she can't buy the paper - teacher said of course you can, get your parents to buy it. Then wouldn't hear anymore.

I know it is for school and stuff. But I just can't do it.

AIBU to give her a note and say that the paper will not be bought
Or
AIBU to tell DD1 to swap even though the teacher said not to

Because quiet frankly I will not start buying the Daily Mail now after so many years of (my whole family) refusing too (we do not entertain that paper in my family ) just because a teachers says it needs to be bought.
IAMBU aren't I ?

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hermionestranger · 09/11/2011 21:25

Yanbu Grin daily hate mail is vile and you should
Not encourage them by purchasing it. Grin

AnonyMaw · 09/11/2011 21:25

Just buy a copy of the morning star and say no more...

AgentProvocateur · 09/11/2011 21:26

Can you slip it in a folded-up Guardian, thereby not actually buying it? Wink

squeakytoy · 09/11/2011 21:27

You give her the money, and SHE can buy the paper. It isnt up to you to dictate what newspaper your teenager can buy.

Considering most current affairs are covered in the DM, it doesnt mean you have to agree with what they right, or that by buying it you are condoning what they have written either.

onepieceofcremeegg · 09/11/2011 21:27

In your position I would probably buy dd a couple of alternative papers and send a brief polite note into the teacher explaining why.

Or if you don't want to tell the teacher why, then I predict that there will be no copies of the Daily Mail left in the shop on the day she needs them! Wink

troisgarcons · 09/11/2011 21:27

Does the teacher mean collect free local papers?

No one buys papers now - they are all online.

TBH - I would send a note in saying that you dont foolishly spend money on buying 'free' goods - and most school libraries subscribe to a (near) full set of daily papers anyway.

bigTillyMint · 09/11/2011 21:29

No-one buys papers??????

MrsPeterDoherty · 09/11/2011 21:29

Tell her to mug the paperboy on the way to school:)

Or write a note about not wanting your daughter indoctrinated with bigoted drivel

kslatts · 09/11/2011 21:30

Depends what it is going to be used for I guess, if your dd shares your views she may get a chance to explain to others in her class why she wouldn't normally buy the paper and show some examples.

Did your dd explain to the teacher why she wasn't prepared to buy the Daily Mail?

Jux · 09/11/2011 21:36

I think you are performing a public service by refusing to buy it or let your dd buy it. I would tell dd to swap anyway and send her in with a note just in case she needs it (did the teacher make a note of who was getiting which?).

There are certain standards which should be upheld, after all, despite school Wink

lurkerspeaks · 09/11/2011 21:37

YANBU

I would feel the same way. To my eternal shame my Mother reads the DM. I will buy her and my Father their other papers on the days I go to visit - they have a bit of a newspaper habit, but I resolutely refuse to buy the wail.

Interestingly my brother does the same.

They don't particularly like my stand but they respect it.

PomBearAtTheGatesOfDoom · 09/11/2011 21:38

Tell the teacher that homework which involves expenditure is discriminatory against lower income families and is illegal nowadays and smile sweetly.

ByTheSea · 09/11/2011 21:38

YANBU!

maybenow · 09/11/2011 21:39

i wouldn't want to buy one but it's important that your Dd gets a chance to look at it critically and de-construct it... can you not ask the library or a coffeeshop for an old copy they're throwing away?

StrandedBear · 09/11/2011 21:41

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zippy539 · 09/11/2011 21:45

I would sit down with dd and tell her why you don't want her buying this paper. Then once she is clear on your objections I would A) give her access to the online version (again with commentary on why it is crap) so she can go in and tell the teacher in her own words why she isn't buying it or better, B)let her buy it and take it in after showing her/letting her form her own opinion into why it is crap. Presumably the teacher is asking them to bring in a variety of paper in order to illustrate the vagries of the media so a dose of cynacism wont do any harm - let her argue her corner (if you can persuade her of your point.

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flippymcflipster · 09/11/2011 21:56

DD1 is a little activist in the making so she does now why that paper isn't entertained in our house (and the times when it comes to it)

Yep teacher definatly meant buy the paper and from what DD said wrote down who had what paper. She did try to explain why she couldn't buy paper but teacher cut her.

squeeky but then in my heart i would still be buying it if I gave her the money.

Anoy I like it :)

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SheepAreSuper · 09/11/2011 21:58

YANBU. It's utter dross.

I can send my local weekly free paper to you if you like. It's full of lots of crap interesting local 'news'. No one else will have one.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 09/11/2011 22:01

Seriously, the teacher can't make you buy it. If I ask my pupils to bring in newspapers/articles I have to give them the choice of what to bring in so that they can bring the freebies if they want to and because I'm intrigued to see which papers arrive from which families

Casmama · 09/11/2011 22:02

How about you look at it as doing a public duty to show the other people in your daughters' class what a lot of tripe it is - she could even get them to discourage their parents from buying it.

Casmama · 09/11/2011 22:03

Fuck - daughter's

Trills · 09/11/2011 22:05

YABU - she should buy the paper in order to discuss it with people in class.

How utterly ridiculous to say "I can't buy that paper". Did she really say that to a teacher?

iggi999 · 09/11/2011 22:07

If I did this I would buy the papers myself. But I can completely see why the teacher wants to specify the papers - it will make for really interesting reading if they have coverage of the same events from the DM and the Guardian to look at. Sounds like a decent citizenship lesson to me.

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flippymcflipster · 09/11/2011 22:08

trills I believe so probably more on the lines of 'umm miss, I don't think I can buy this paper' in that sort of way.

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flippymcflipster · 09/11/2011 22:10

But to not let them swap iggi ? I would let my students to some excent in my class swap if they both agree. (and that is primary school)

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