..to want to keep my SIL at arm's length (Chapter 2!)

[Bobbymac]

This is a continuation of my previous conversation a few weeks ago (see my previous posting).

MY DH agreed to write to his SIL and drafted a firm but reasonable letter to her. He keeps putting off sending it and I realise now that he doesn't want to do it. It is creating alot of tension between us.

Do I just bite the bullet and do it myself?

Oh I see (I think!)

So when you said 'He's putting off sending it so shall you bite the bullet and do it yourself'....did you mean send your Husband's letter or write one of your own?

Just to clarify - wouldn't have sent DD's letter without his knowledge, but had considered writing to SIL myself.

If DH doesn't want to send a letter, then I wouldn't force him into it, but not sure how SIL would take a letter from me (given that she hates me).

Having talked to DD again, I think he's more concerned about SIL telling his Mum.

do you need to send a letter? can you just back off? see them a lot less often, change your dd's phone number etc.?