Visiting friends who have sick children

[Ljll]

I am a new mum so fairly new to this but Aibu to expect my friend to keep her sick children away from my 4 month old baby?

My friend is always very keen to have guests over etc even if her children are sick. Mist recently she invited us around and agreed. She then said she had been up all night with her Dd 2 years old as she had been vomiting lots and had a temperate. I straight away said that we would not come over and she said not to worry as it was just teething. We got around and when the Dd woke up vomit everywhere, she panics and I spend the next hour helping her with her Dd and hoping my Dh keeps our DS away from it all.
This happened once before when her Dd was very sick and she blamed teething as well and it turned out to be tonsillitis. My DS was sharing a very small space all day with her Dd on that occasion and was not well afterwards.
The problem I have is that she us so keen to socialise she will always say it is teething when her Dd is sick. Her Dd is very often sick and as well as not being vaccinated at all which does concern me as well.
Aibu to be cross that she always passes off her Dd various illnesses as teething when it is not and this risks us and DS getting sick. I realise that it is difficult to know initially what is wrong with kids ( her dd is 2 ) when they are sick but surely continual vomiting is not caused from teething??

YANBU hate hate hate this.

yanbu! i'm not one to keep kids at home or not socialising just cos of a cold or runny nose but continually vomitting is a step too far, its inconsiderate of her

• temperature! Ahem sorry for the other mistakes, baby brain!

You also seem to be very keen to socialize, as she warns you her child is sick (though blame it on something non-infectious to cover herself), yet you take your baby there! Your decision to go to a house where a child has been vomiting through the night. If SHE is keen on socializing, you seem even more so....

Good point shadow, I really did think that vomiting can happen when teething hence me still going around after she reassured me it was only teething but have since learnt that is not the case. A lot to learn being a new parent and I didn't want to appear over the top iykwim??

Vomiting is most likely a bug. Tonsillitis can cause it, but most likely a tummy bug, or noro virus. Children who have been vomiting, should stay away from school or nursery for 48 hours after last vomit, to ensure they are no longer infectious. It is hardly ever due to teething. Teething can cause a slight increase in temperature, but usually the child just get a big chewy and grizzly.

Inhaling vomit or handling it (such as when clearing it up) makes you more likely to catch the bug. So keep away!

I don't really connect being sick with teething tbh definitely more a bug. Perhaps a slightly raised temperature, nappy rash or some disgusting nappies associated with teething. I would keep away if she has been vomitting. A runny nose I wouldn't worry about as much.

I hate people like this they are so selfish. The same thing happened to me me when I went round to my friends when dd was 1. She told me that there was a sickness bug in the family and that her ds and dd had it a day ago. I wanted to leave straight away but felt embarrassed, needless to say dd got dv a few days later

Thanks very much Shadow, lesson learnt as I have been feeling unwell and I never get sick! I just hope DS doesn't get sick as well!

As my friends Dd is sick a huge amount of the time ( and always blamed on teething) it has been difficult to know when to not see them.

Wise mnetters when would you refuse to see friends with a sick child ie what symptoms would the child have to have??

Thanks, what is D and V?

D&V diarrhea and vomiting.

The bug usually needs fat and sugar to "bloom", or break out properly. So ensure you stay away from sugary stuff, chocs, biscuits, and eat lean and healthy food. Such as oven baked chicken breast and rice, steamed veg, etc. It may pass, with only nausea rather than the vomiting.
Wash your hands well before handling food and after any toilet visits.

My now XSIL once fell out with me for giving her a sickness but. I still maintain it wasn't my fault. DD came down with it through the night and I started feeling unwell in the morning. We were due to go to SIL so I called her and told her we wouldn't be coming and why. She later sent a text to say they would come to us. I called her back saying no as I was just going to get o bed as sson as I could as was feeling unwell and also didn't want to spread it. So she turned up, barged in and started helping taking over. Low and behold she was unwell a couple of days later and it was my fault, told her so but she wouldn't listen. Mind you her not speaking to me is generally a blessing :).

Thanks Shadow, you certainly know your stuff!

I feel that I will need a detailed rundown of friends Dd current medical state before we see them! It doesn't help that her Dd is not vaccinated as well!!

Oh, Ljll, through experience!!

I hope you are feeling better, did you come down with it in the end?

My DD2 always vomitted with tonsilitis. So bad doc offered to refer her to ENT to whip'em out as her tonsils are large. But I declined. She is 9 now and the occurrences are less. Kids immune systems do most of their development up to the age of 8.

I don't think your friend is being fair on you/your child or her own either. I can't see that her DC would want visitors taking up their mums time when they are ill. She is being very selfish.

Tell your friend you are imposing the school rule. No contact within 48 hours or D or V.