To be pissed off with ex's suicide threat

[RillaBlythe]

I dated this guy for about 4 months something like 6 years ago. It was quite intense & ended around the same time I had a termination that he struggled with (more than me). He was always a lost soul & since we split up has been temping & travelling in various countries. Any contact with him irritates me, especially these emotionally plaintive FB messages. A while back he sent me a message about remembering sex with me. Today it's about how he's wandering lost & thinking more & more about moving on to the next world where things will be easier.

My reaction is one of anger. I'm pretty sure hr is just trying to provoke a response from me, because I don't engage with him emotionally in the way he wants - I want him to leave me alone!- but I can't be sure & of course I feel anxious too! I can get in touch with his brother but they are not close & in different countries.

Grr. AIBU to resent this?

Block him and ignore him.

Block and delete. I would.

Ah yes - the joys of FB.
Ditch him or unfriend him or whatever it is people do.
In days of yore you didn't have to maintain any contact at all with
self-absorbed fuckwit ex-boyfriends.

Ignore. He is not your responsibility whatsoever, and in doing this, he is attempting to make himself so.
Block and delete and be bothered by him no more.

Harsh as it sounds, block him, ignore him, and forget about him. He isnt your responsibility.

I am SHIT with needy people btw.
I used to be a proper soft touch as a youngster, but experience has taught me well.
Needy people drain you dry, and then want more. This will not end. If you contact his brother or whatever, the ex will delighted that he has got your attention, and more emotional vampirism will follow.
Put a stop to it and do not engage.

Oh thank you. Emotional vampirism is exactly it. I suppose I feel guilty that I've married (the man I left him for, ahem) & had DD since then but it's not my fault he's a selfish pothead hasn't found The One.

YANBU

If you report what he says to fb and say that you are worried about him, they can refer him to the samaritans. Then Samaritans will send him an email through FB asking him if he wants to talk about stuff. It is all completely anonymous.

Then you can block him with a completely clear consience. You can have a clear consience anyway, but knowing that you have referred him on to someone else might help you get it out of your head.

He is not your problem. Delete from FB and block. Can you block him from any other way he contacts you, eg phone or email? Tear and throw any letters, unread.

I had a nutty ex threaten suicide when I was 21. Ten years later he's still shuffling on this mortal coil, still living with his mum and still not my problem.

Unfriend. Not your problem. Not sure why you're friends with him in the first place if you only went out with him for a few months and it all seems to have ended a bit stressfully. (I know it doesn't say that, I'm reading between the lines so apologise if that's not strictly true).

YANBU but why the hell is he your FB friend. I have a similar situation in that i dated a guy for about a month then met dh, bloke was hideously upset has since contacted me on FB and clearly not got over it, wtf. I blocked him, i think it says more of his mental instability than anything to do with me. Your probably not helping him by being his fb friend either.

Delete and block him! Not your problem any more

Do you usually reply to his messages/posts?

Depends which way you want to play it - Samaritans sounds good but you might also want to tell him that you do not want to hear from him and if he contacts you again you'll consider it harassment sorry, don't know how if you need to word it officially but then you will have both signed him over to the Samaritans and hopefully he will realise tjat you don't want to hear from him. Harsh I know but sometimes you need to be cruel to be kind.

Delete! Delete! Delete!

Block him from FB, do not engage with him in any way. He sounds completely up his own arse.