To think my DH is a lazy sod for napping so bloody much?!

[CheekyChoppers]

DH and I both work full time, I have weekends off and he is off Monday and Tuesday (he's a chef). We have a 14 month old.

Despite working full time (and being 23 wks preg!) I do nearly everything in the house; washing, food shopping, making dinner, ironing, most of the cleaning etc etc

On his days off DH does bugger all, and whenever I ring him in the day he appears to be napping on the sofa!

I think he's a bloody lazy git and it's not reasonable to nap so much, he thinks I'm compleatly unreasonable!! Cheeky sod.

Despite working full time (and being 23 wks preg!) I do nearly everything in the house; washing, food shopping, making dinner, ironing, most of the cleaning etc etc

Read that back to yourself (pregnant or not) and you'll see why he naps all the time.

What would happen if you napped throughout your weekends off?

I suspect nothing would get done and there'd be no food in the cupboards.

If he's treating you like a servant, it's because you've allowed yourself to become one I'm afraid.

Is he ill? If not then YANBU!
You should both have the same amount of free time. You're spending your days off doing all the housework, and he's doing sweet F A by the sounds of it. You should both have the same amount of free time. If he wants to spend his free time napping, that's his choice, but leaving all the shit work for you to do isn't on. Tell him you're only going to do your share and he's better start pulling his weight.

Have a little nap yourself.

Surely he cooks when it's his days off? He's a lazy sod if he truly does nothing in the house, and you need to make it clean what you expect him to do when he's not at work.

*he'd not he's

*clear not clean

Yup, lazy sod. But don't enable him to be one. Draw up a fair division of household tasks to ensure that you both have equal responsibilities. He'll only get worse if you don't.

Have you asked him to explain, clearly and in words of one syllable, exactly how you are being unreasonable? And then use all his arguments (if he can come up with any) and use them yourself next weekend.

FFS pallymama - stop correcting yourself!

Typical man!

This about sums it up: recently when visiting a friend I apologised for DD not riding the pony they had arranged. My friend's DP said "don't worry, most creatures would rather do nothing than do something."

If housework is left to men, the house ends up full of flies (and that's more or less what my DH said.) Men don't carry if they live in a pigsty. Get used to it.

No it's NOT "typical man!" And if that's what you expect, then that's what you're likely to attract.

How insulting to men. Not in the least typical. Maybe he needs a hobby. Why do you do all the housework, exactly? How odd. Why does he let his pregnant partner do that?

I agree with worraliberty, OP. Put a STOP to this now!

I love a nice nap in the afternoon, everything else can wait

Is he looking after ds when he is at home? I assume you do on your days off?