To expect a thank u

[wifey6]

From my previous threads...I have trouble with my sisters. They don't also treat me very well...put me down & leave me out. After the excellent advice I had last time...I distanced myself completely...however...it was my sisters birthday & a few days later her graduation. I sent two cards to make both occasions & also put money in her card. That was nearly 2 weeks ago now & I haven't had a text or phone call. I didn't do it to expect a thank you... Just surprised she has acknowledged it. Am I being silly?

-hasn't acknowledged it-

I think she should acknowledge it - whether it be a thank you card/phonecall/text. Loads of people seem to not bother with thank you cards, personally I think it's rude not to acknowledge a gift.

Do you know she definitely received it?

Yes she definitely did as my mum gave it to her...but she never asked my mum to say thank you etc. it must sound petty...but it has upset me. I make an effort with all my sisters and their children...yet they do not with me and my DS. I don't make the effort for it to be returned...but it upsets me when they don't acknowledge it.

Perhaps she didn't receive them? I never send cash in a card as it rarely arrives. Why not call to check she received them & say you were worried that you hadn't heard from her & didn't want her to think you had forgotton.
If she had just not said thank you,you know not to bother sending her a gift again.

I would imagine that your sisters are aware of you having distanced yourself from them, and are maybe doing the same?

They might regard the stepping away, and then suddenly sending money, as game playing on your part. That sort of thing can be very tiresome.

If you feel that they don't like you, you are not compelled to have anything to do with them. They may also prefer to maintain some distance, or have no contact with you.

X post. Really,I would say to your mum that the money you spend on them you will save to treat your ds from now on.

I would just send her a message and ask if she had received them. I do this if i've sent something in the post just to make sure they got it. This would then give her the opporunity to say thank you, even if it is two weeks late and possibly apologise for the late 'reply'. If she still doesn't acknowledge it then I probably would take it as a snub and not bother again.
It is rude not to acknowledge a gift, I make a point of making my son make thankyou cards for everyone at birthdays and christmas and will text/call to say thankyou for everything else.

Obiwan...I had texted her a few days before to see what she would like...a surprise present or money...of which she replied money. So we were on good terms. By distancing myself...in a sense of not arranging to meet etc as I has been let down by them a lot last month.

YABU. Loads of people don't send thank you cards/phone people to thank them. It's impolite, but don't take it personally.

X-post. If you know she has definitely received it then just don't bother again. You shouldn't give to receive but a simple thanks for the card wouldn't have hurt even if your not on the best of terms at the moment.
My aunt who I don't particularly like and have had issues with still sends stuff at xmas/birthdays for my DS, I would prefer she didn't, but she does so she will still get a thank you letter.

I think I will have to put it down to experience & as some of you have said... Not bother again. My nieces & nephews will still receive on birthdays..Xmas etc from me.