to think partner should be helping out more since I am poorly?

[munkeychops]

I have a nasty cold and stomach bug at the same time and am feeling really uncomfortable. Only can't sleep it off as we have a baby (who only naps for 30mins max at a time). I normally do all weekday night feeds but feel pissed off this morning that despite him knowing how I am feeling, I still did the night feed whilst he slept and then got up 45mins before him this morning with our baby to feed her whilst he lay in bed. In his defense, he does often do night feeds at the weekend (or get up early with her). He even laughed last night and insinuated that I was laying it on thick. I'm really not though, I feel so uncomfortable and tired.

AIBU?

NOPE yaNbu He should help out more. If he puts the baby to bed you coudl at least get an early night. Be specific as to what you need.

I think I had this bug last week. I felt truly awful. He won't appreciate how bad you feel until he gets it too. Try to rest as much as you can during the day. Feel better soon.

YANBU, of course he should be helping more.

Thanks Eggrules, I took your advice and was specific - just said I need him to do night feed and he said no problem! Maybe he should have thought to offer but then again maybe I should have just asked.

Off to bed now smelling of vicks vapour ...

Grand.

I always need to ask and be specific. If I said to one of my friends I was poorly they would ask how they could help. With my lovely other half he thinks I am chatting/complaining/hears white noise. Specific works for me.