Aibu in accidentally making other plans and trying to justify it

[ChablisLover]

Long story short.

Friend had said they were thinking if a certain date to have a christening (before she had the baby!). We had been looking to go to an event and had given dh list of dates and he picked this date - before friend said about christening.

I booked the tickets and then remembered that the dates were the same. Am v annoyed with self and trying to tell myself it was only a provisional date anyway and plus our event is something for our ds who didn't get to do this last year cos of the bad weather.

Aibu to tell a wee white lie and say we booked tickets prior to this or to tell truth that I am a forgetful so and so and to buy a really nice gift? It was a complete accident and feel so guilty but had given dh all the dates and this is the one he picked.

ah tell them the tickets are pre-booked, saves hurt feelings (still buy a lovely gift tho )

If this is a close friend, imo you should try to exchange the tickets for another date. Failing that, perhaps you could sell tickets on ebay, craigslist, etc and re-buy for another date.

If not such a close friend, perhaps an excuse will suffice.

She chose the christening date before she'd had the baby?!

Whats so special about the date?

So has the baby even been born yet? Is the christening thing actually sorted, or is it still that they're thinking of a certain date? I think tell the white lie. It was all a bit vague given the lack of an actual baby at that stage.

Is the christening date of special significance? I would probably say that the tickets were prebooked to avoid any hurt feelings, but make up for it with a really awesome present. I would feel horribly horribly guilty though :(

Dh is close to baby's father but it was a we were thinking of such and such a date for christening. No baby at that time.

Baby was born last week but still had to sort priest, venue etc etc so all sorts could come up.

Tickets for the event are non refundable and non transferable. So it would be £50 down the drain and ds ( who knows nothing of it as it is a surprise ) would lose out as he did last year ( granted he didn't know either) but I felt guilty enough that he didn't go and missed out!!

Go to your event.

it depends how close and religious your friend is. If she is very religious and very close then I think you should go. Otherwise, white lie all the way

Thanks for all the advice

As it was only provisional I will use that, being scatty and buy lovely presents

Will still be able to go to the party but not actual christening.

If you're not family and you're not likely to be godparents, then it's ok to miss the Christening. Tell them the tickets were pre-booked and you didn't realise it was the same date.

Resurrecting my thread.

Thankfully, christening has been arranged for 2 weeks prior to our event! Disaster averted!!

Thanks for all your advice