To Want To Spend Time With My DH?

[YorkshireTeaAddict]

Long story short: I am Maid of Honour for my best friend who is getting married at the end of March 2012. My DH and I are extrememly busy with work and don't often get to see each other.

Each saturday for the lat 2-3 months, I have met up with BF to help her look for dresses, talk about weddings etc.

On Saturday we were meant to be going with her, her fiance, her sister and BIL to a bonfire bash. I texted her on Friday night to say we wouldn't be able to make it and now she is being all funny with me. I did explain that DH and I haven't seen each other much recently.

Luckily DH and I aren't telling anyone that we are TTC #1 becuase BF once made a comment about how wierd it would look if she had a pregnant maid of honour. I want a baby and DH and I are ready now. I am quite worried about telling her when I do fall pg in case she gets weird with me.

AIBU?

YANBU. I can't believe she would have the cheek to have a problem with you getting pregnant. Even if you conceive today you would be just 20 weeks by the end of March.

The thing about not being able to make the bonfire bash - how is she being funny with you? Did she say something specific, like "i'm really disappointed you're not coming"? Could it be that because you're worried she's upset, you're overanalysing her reaction?

YANBU... Maid of Honour should mean a dress fitting or two, a hen night and the wedding. She's really dragging it out scheduling every Saturday since August! And god help you if it carries on until March. I'd keep being 'unavailable' for all but the most important stuff.... and ignore any sniffy behaviour. I really hope you are nicely pregnant by then and upstage your friend shamelessly!! :)

Thanks Cogito! Only been off the pill for 3 weeks but fingers crossed!!

Tyelperion, maybe I am overanalysing things...in the past, when she has gotten sniffy with me, she doesn't tex and is offish when we meet up. I have been texing her as normal bug get short replies if any. Will be seeing her on Friday so hopefully she will be ok by then, if not, I will just ask what's up I guess?!

As tyle says you will be 20 weeks max if you conceive right away and could easily take a few months. I was 18 weeks pregnant at my own wedding and you can't tell from the pictures.

DONT text, her being in a huff with you now seems a good thing! You get some breathing space!!

It sounds like you have gone above and beyond the call of duty! I did nowhere near that much when I was maid of honour and wouldn't have expected my friends to do that much for me.

euro, when I got married my bridesmaid (only had 1) was utterly useless and I hated it (the fact that I had asked her, not my wedding etc!). I guess I am just wanting her to know I am there and that I care.

Every Saturday talking about wedding dresses and her wedding?? How boring interesting

What is it about weddings taht turn some women into teh biggest bores on the planet eh? And as for ttc - good luck - even with regualr sex it is perfectly normal to take up to 2 years to conceive, you canty put your plans on hold because of this.

duck, I know! I hope it doesn't take 2 years but who knows eh?