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AIBU?

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AIBU? Am I?

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gemma4d · 06/11/2011 12:31

AIBU to think that if DH takes DD2 age 7 months for an hour first thing so I can have a lie in (first in 7 months) after 2 terrible nights (dd2 has cold and teething) that he should be able to change her nappy and feed her breakfast without being asked? Not take her for a walk, then say "I'm surprised she didn't go to sleep, I walked her miles!" Yes, in a nappy that weighed half as much as her and with an empty belly!

AIBU to think that since my husband found time to go to the gym, I should have managed to find time to go for a swim like I said I wanted to yesterday? Instead of 1) sorting out DD2 while husband gone (which he should have done IMO - as above), then 2) doing housework as the place is a tip, again. 3) It's now too late as she is going to want to feed when she wakes up. And since husband won't get a driving licence its not like he could bring her up to the leisure centre to meet me when she wakes up or anything. We are BOTH supposed to be on a fitness-drive, but I have to find time for the kids and the house. He doesn't seem to have to.

AIBU? I've had a cold, as had dd1 AND dd2, for about a month now. Its cold. My husband doesn't help enough around the house. All I ever do is kids-house-cooking-shopping-bills-washing. Dear god the washing. I am fed up.

End of whine.

And yes, I would like some cheese with that w(h)ine.

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SkinnyGirlBethany · 06/11/2011 12:36

Yanbu- I'm in the same boat but dp does cleaning, washing and ironing. How about running instead and fwiw I always let my dp know that dd2 must be handed back with a new nappy on and dressed

gemma4d · 06/11/2011 12:42

think I might be too far gone for running [embarrased] [deeply embarassed]

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TartyMcFarty · 06/11/2011 12:47

YANBU. My DH pulls his weight but I'm tired of having to ask him to. He never thinks to dress DD in the morning (that said, when I have asked him to he's made some odd choices Grin), and preparing meals for her doesn't enter his head at all. It's weird.

TooEasilyTempted · 06/11/2011 12:51

YANBU.

Your DH didn't feed your DD or change her nappy? This is basic stuff. He is a total fuckwit.

ledkr · 06/11/2011 13:08

i had 4 kids with a useless twunt.I remarried and have dd 9 months with dh.
He is a gem. Works full time but gets up at night and early morns,cleans,does washing and schoolruns.

As far as i can tell he does it because he doesnt want me to do it all and he realises its his respnsibility too.

He also realises that less tired wife means a good sex life happy marriage. Grin

ilovesooty · 06/11/2011 13:17

YANBU to be hacked off. YABU if you fail to do anything about it.

Arachnophobic · 06/11/2011 13:38

What is it about this man that made you commit and have kids? He sounds like a complete eejit.

HipHopOpotomus · 06/11/2011 13:42

YANBU. This kind of thing is driving a huge wedge between DP and I at the moment.

Kytti · 06/11/2011 13:53

I'm with ledkr my hubby is fab and thinks nothing of getting up and letting me be a lazy git on a weekend. I do Mon-Fri and he does all that clothing / nappy thing on a weekend.

I guess at least he took her out, instead of making you do it... although he should have put on a fresh nappy! lol

gemma4d · 06/11/2011 20:17

Thanks, feel better now after some food and fireworks. He isn't the best possible husband but I do love him - and at least he is a great dad once the child is old enough to talk and say what they want! I shall double my efforts at 'house-training' him. (Oh god, I hope no-one takes that the wrong way!).

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Backtobedlam · 06/11/2011 20:20

YANBU-he sounds similar to my dp. Luckily I have now invested in a cleaner and joined a gym with a crèche...happy days!

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