to think its not my fault

[biddysmama]

im 28 weeks pregnant and a few weeks ago my dr sent me into hospital because i had back pain so bad it made me pass out :( ive also got siatica

they wanted to keep me in but i had to go home because dh has to work or we cant pay the rent and we have 2 little ones (14 and 32 months) that need me

im managing with strong (well strong for pregnancy) painkillers and as much rest as possible

i cant walk far enough to go out, i cant sit up for long and the painkillers are making me tired

ive had to miss a few things i was supposed to be doing , including my ds's birthday treat because im ill and my mum is making out that its not that bad and i should still be doing everything i usually do, she's just had 2 weeks off work and been once to help me :( my grandad thinks i should be in hospital and the bills dont matter, i feel like im trying my best but notings good enough, i dont want to be in tis much pain :(

aibu to think its not my fault? i feel like im being blamed for being ill and letting people down

Of course it's not your fault why isn't your mum doing more to help you? Is there anyone else you can ask to help?

of course it is not your fault.

Your mum obviously does not realise how bad it is, your grandad seems as if he is trying to put your needs first but not realising that bills do have to be paid .

Get your Dh to back you up with your Mum and stop making harsh comments.

Your mum sounds like a right bitch. Try to ignore her as best you can. Do you have any friends around that could help you out?

of course not, but if you need to have treatment or rest it may be possible to ask your hv to find a short term cm or nursery place for your dc rather than be disappointed by your family's lack of support .