This is a tricky one and is more about my dh than me but it does affect me as well. Ok, I will start with background info: dh parents got divorced when he was 14 and his sis was 6, they went to live with the mother and rarely saw their father as the mother had control. The mother portrays her self to the wide world as devoted mother and general all round lovely person but behind closed doors, a different story, she really can?t be bothered with her dc unless she has an audience. She has been married a few times now and on husband no 3, her only concern is keeping up appearances in her social circle.
There Is a long list of events that have led up to my dh resentment towards his mother, I have always tried to play the devils advocate as we don?t see a great deal of mil and I can do without trouble. Anyway I am starting to have more sympathy with my dh since the birth of our ds1 last year. She now likes to play the part of devoted gp, but again is all noise and no action, she went through a stage of leaving demanding answer phone messages stating that we must do xy and z and the messages became more hostile and foul the longer we left them unanswered, nothing of any importance just so long as her wishes were met.
Last Christmas there was an answer phone message filled with anger and tears demanding that she saw her grandson at Christmas, we had no problem with this and had not restricted her, but we had to change plans to fit round her and her social events, to top off the visit our ds1 received his Christmas present which was a glittery bag and ribbons and a special card and the actual gift was a £6 dog from ikea ( not a problem but she is not short of cash?new range rover, cruises etc)
I am just sick of all the demands from my mil and feel sorry for my ds as she is the only family that is near by and his only gp.
Any way I guess I?m asking for advice, my dh would quite happily move with no forwarding address but I feel torn. Any advice please?