To wonder why people put up with the shite that they put up with?

[gigglepin]

Spose i am being judgy, but i am doing it secretly, in my head and to you all. I have NEVER said any of this actually in RL, but i do wonder this..

For example, i have a friend, she is very intelligent but is married to an arse who is just hopeless, clueless and takes the piss out of her...yet she thinks he is wonderful.

My MIL is a doormat to both FIL & BIL, and has put up with shit for years and years.

Why do folk just carry on for years and years when they are obviously not happy OR oblivious to frankly OBVIOUS poor treatement by people who are supposed to be thier loving partners?

ps there is NO DV involved, just selfish, inconsiderate behaviour over & over & over again.

Its hard to know whether to intervene too. I never do - I just figure it wouldn't achieve anything if I wade in and instead just make it plain that I'm there if the friend putting up with the shite needs me.

With one particular friend though I feel sometimes that I'm letting her down by never voicing my true opinion, its almost as though by keeping sctumm I (and several other friends who feel the same) are normalising it for her and unwittingly perpetuating her unhappiness :(