to feel left out

[bath79]

SIL and her dh has invited her mum and mil along with bil and their family to her house with a view to going to a local firework display. AIBU to feel left out.

No YANBU, could you invite yourself?

Go along, text them to say you'll "meet them at the bonfire if they are going" :o
YANBU :(

Are you the only nearby relative they didn't invite?

Yes. Maybe I should give her the benefit of the doubt and believe she though we would want to do something nearer home. We are about 20 miles away.

If they are local to each other and you are 20 miles away then YAB a bit U to assume that they meant anything nasty by it.

Just text and say what time shall we arrive?

And if she did do it on purpose then buy her something shit for Christmas.

wrinkle cream or a voucher for a free moustache wax

I wouldn't feel bad - to many people 20 miles would be a trek, and perhaps they assumed that you wouldn't want a 40 mile round trip on a Saturday night.

Can you not ring them and ask if you can tag along?

YANBU to feel left out but perhaps they thought it might put you out to have to go that far?

Be careful not to get shirty before you're totally certain it was spite, it could well be about the 20 miles.

Il's on other side are coming from further afield and staying over. They are nice people so I am sure they didn't mean to offend.