To make DD go to this party?

[MumblingAndBloodyRagDoll]

She's 7 and began at a new school this Sept...she's doing well really as she is a shy child...she's had 3 invitations to parties and also a playdate since we began their which I think is very kind and thoughtful of the parents to help her fit in....she had one today for a part with a dance teacher in a hall and she was feeling a bit blah about it....I know it is because she struggles with any type of performance based things....but I thought it important for her to go since she had told me she wanted to go when we got the invite and I had already RSVP'd....plus she needs to challenge herself doesn't she?

DH was all "Oh she's not bothered dont make her" and I said that's a bad attitude and she should go and try to mix in and get to know more kids.

He was and thinks i "try to hard"

I dont! I'm not pushy at all...far from it...but since a LOT of the Mums in DDs class work, I haven't managed to meet any of them and of course i want to....so in the future I can arrange some playdates etc. I don't push her...I just want to tweach her some manners...I KNOW she might be feeling shy right now...but I can't let her stay in her comfort zone all the time!

YANBU it'll be good for to go, and like you say, you'll meet some more of the mums.

I think if you RSVP then it is rude not to go (barring emergency / illness etc) - good lesson for your DD to learn as well as all the other reasons that you have said.

Gentle encouragement and she'll have a good time

YANBU. DD2 is 7, and sometimes gets shy/nervous about going to parties or other events without me or DD1. But she always has a great time once there. Several times I had to bribe her into going. And each time she had a great time.
It is good idea to try meet the other moms too.

YANBU

And I am sure once there she will have a good time too.

YANBU. I have quite anti-social tendencies at times and DH has to push me into going to things because he knows I will enjoy it when I get there.

YANBU. You have told the hosts that you are going, it would be rude not to go now. Your dd needs to learn this, so you're right to give her a little push. She'll probably enjoy it when she gets there.

Good! I will show this to DH! He is very sociable so I wonder if it's to do with being generally more relaxed about things...I do hope she's coped ok! Thanks for the encouragement!