AIBU to think that saying "Where do you get off saying that to me, given that...

[Cathycomehome]

insert unreasonable hypocritical thing" is not swearing at someone, for God's sake?

No, of course not! I suspect your interlocutor has been called on their unreasonable hypocrisy and has nowhere to go other than to challenge your form of words/tone. More details?

swearing?

Do they understand that swearing is the use of actual words called 'Swear Words' and not simply being told something you don't want to hear?

erm. Clearly the wheel is spinning but the hamster is dead.

Colleague. I snapped after months of patient irritation. Having picked up her slack for some time, her criticism of one tiny thing I made a mistake with incited the "where do yo get off" thing.

what?

Sorry, usual - like, for example, (not the example in question as that would out me), "Where do you get off saying that I wasn't up to speed with the minutes of that meeting, and reporting me for being unprofessional, given that you didn't even turn up to the last six with no explanation".

Colleague then said that "Where do you get off" was swearing

Then she's an idiot.

Unless you said it really fast, in a very strong accent and all she heard clearly was "off"

I enunciated (is that a word? I know what I mean ) every word VERY clearly. Had she said I was sharp, or abrupt - well yes I was! But I didn't swear, and I wasnt aggressive.

Missing apostrophe, sorry. If she did just hear "off" and chose to draw her own conclusions - well then, I wouldn't necessarily disagree with the sentiment. But I didn't SAY it!

The wheel is spinning but the hamster is dead will be getting used from now on!!!!

Almost spat me wine out laughing...but Im a tight git!

Is she confusing it with the phrase "to get off on ", which I believe means to orgasm? Bit tenuous I know, but it's the nearest I canget to the idea of swearing IYSWIM.

But she's probably just trying to distract you and others from her failings.

Did she think you said 'you can fuck off saying that'?

at the little dead hamster indefinately rolling round and round on his squeaky wheel.