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Original poster

to think that a SAHP of school aged children really doesn't need a cleaner.

172 replies

leeds79 · 04/11/2011 10:42

I know of a few mums at school who have 2/3 dc who are school aged. Neither work but they they still have a cleaner. Obv know its their choice but it does seem crazy to me.

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CaptainNancy · 04/11/2011 14:17

Cleaning doesn't fall under the parenting remit AFAIAC!

Why shouldn't people have a cleaner if they want one? It's not as if they're expecting you to pay for it.

redpanda13 · 04/11/2011 14:25

I would have liked a cleaner before reading this thread. Now I have convinced myself I NEED one. There are plenty of ads with cleaners offering their services in my local shops. I have looked at them wistfully before. If only I could afford to be a SAHP too. Will buy Euromillions while I am at shops looking at the ads.

ssd · 04/11/2011 14:25

op, you're jealous and so am I

sahm's with kids at school all day and cleaners are lazy gits

they are also lucky gits

suburbandream · 04/11/2011 14:30

I'm a SAHM and I hate cleaning - if I could afford a cleaner I would have one! I broke my wrist last winter and couldn't do much cleaning then so I had a cleaner for 6 weeks, it was bliss Smile

thegingerone · 04/11/2011 14:33

I'm a SAHM (For the time being. On Mat leave but no baby yet) with 2 school age DCs. I have a cleaner. When I clean I do it so obsessively that nothing else gets done. I was working three days a week before Mat leave.

I can't stand my house being a mess. DH and I have decided that the cleaner is a priority of ours. I feel lucky that we can manage our budget to do that. I don't sit around not doing ANY housework. The cleaner just makes sure that everything is mantained at a acceptable level and I get as far as the more occassional jobs rather than my previous hamster wheel of mopping kitchen floor/cleaning bathroom/etc.

jackiejones · 04/11/2011 14:37

i can't understand why you object? They can afford it and want one. Maybe they don't like cleaning? Prehaps they have other stuff going on elderly parents, work from home, illness etc.

Makiko · 04/11/2011 15:03

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JessieLeGrund · 04/11/2011 16:08

YANBU.

Sapphirefling · 04/11/2011 16:19

I'm even more worthy of your scorn OP. I'm a single parent and only work part time. But I still have a cleaner. And I don't really care what anyone else thinks. Despite all the raised eyebrows and sarcastic comments from colleagues Grin

Towndon · 04/11/2011 17:02

YABU. Most people pay for some practical tasks to be done, whether it's a plumber, electrician, builder, car wash, hairdresser, decorator or cleaner.

nicknamenotinuse · 04/11/2011 17:38

YABU, mind your own.

WideWebWitch · 04/11/2011 17:40

I have 2 school aged children and a cleaner
I'd sooner get rid of the children than the cleaner :)

FranzFanon · 04/11/2011 18:06

YANBU - I like cleaning (though would be stupid to admit that to those I live with, and so never do). I derive a Calvinist spirituality from a well ordered linen cupboard that I have well-ordered myself. Everything in it's place and a place for everything.

If you're feeling over whelmed by the amount of knick-knackery and general STUFF you have to care for and so outsource to someone else - why not just chuck it away?

Off to polish my halo and lay it upon it's silken hand-embroided pillow (scented with lavender)

Adversecamber · 04/11/2011 18:15

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MarshaBrady · 04/11/2011 18:19

Yes a clean fridge is a wonder.

I was rather delighted the first time my loo roll was folded back in an artistic fashion - just like a hotel.

WibblyBibble · 04/11/2011 18:34

No, you have to understand, in the UK it's fine for rich knobbers to be lazy as fuck, but if someone on the dole is lazy (even just occasionally), that's a HUGE MORAL OUTRAGE. Our value system is entirely based around money, see.

marriedinwhite · 04/11/2011 18:37

I don't need a glass of wine, but I'm having one later! I do need a cleaner because I work full time but I still had one when I was a SAHM.

trixymalixy · 04/11/2011 19:09

I need a glass of wine, can't have one unfortunately!!

Alibabaandthe80nappies · 05/11/2011 10:32

Wibbly Hmm I'm not lazy, or rich, there are just things I would prefer to spend my time on rather than cleaning my house.

I hired the cleaner who came round, she seems lovely and she starts on Wednesday Grin

Chandon · 05/11/2011 10:34

Wibbly, the difference between being lazy as fuck on the dole, and lazy as fuck with your own money, is that in the first case it means OTHERS are paying for the laziness, and in the case of a rich person being lazy, well it's nobody else's problem is it?!

hifi · 05/11/2011 11:24

i have 1 at school and a toddler.my cleaner comes 3 times a week for 14 hours. i honesly dont know how i would all the other things i do and clean the house.

otchayaniye · 05/11/2011 13:58

i used to have a housekeeper before having children. god, those were the days....

Vicki1981 · 05/11/2011 14:00

It's up to them! Maybe they have allergies to cleaning products.

otchayaniye · 05/11/2011 14:00

i love cooking, i keep the place tidy but the 6 hours our cleaner spends cleaning is time better spent with my children.

i won't get onto the subject of our cleaner only seeing her sons once in four years though. that is sad.

OriginalPoster · 05/11/2011 14:03

They have decided to spend £15 or £20 a week on a cleaner. Many people spend more on sky tv, phones, alcohol, fags, impulse clothes buys, coffees, magazines, nails, hair and other things they don't need. It really doesn't matter. You could say they are employing someone local and this is a good thing.