Persistent Pary at Home Type People JUST SAY NO

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Yes I get it, you want to make some £ for Xmas, you are not they only one and yes good on you for having the gumption to get up and started with one of these party at home type things eg:

Jamie Oliver
Linen Loft
Pampered Chef
Jewellery
Body Shop
Handbags accesories
Folding shoes
Etc etc etc....

But when you ask people and they say no, they are saying no for many reasons and for me it's because I don't have the £ to spend, yes even on "just a candle/just a bar of soap/just a tea towel/just a bracelet" So do not keep on asking and asking and saying oh just come to browse no pressure over and over again. You won't wear me down because I am not coming! I swear if will freak if one of these people asks me again to one of these bloody things! (one even said to me to pay a sitter because DH was away so I could come!!)

AIBU?

Times are hard and people are just trying to make a few quid.

Yes I get that. But they don't need to ask you over and over and over again and tell you just to come a buy a bar of soap. Sod off. No means no.

YAsooooooNBU!

I say no because I like to visit friends to gossip, so our kids can play together and give us all a few minutes peace, to relax in company of other adults.

I don't visit friends to be inveigled into spending money I can't afford on plastic boxes, naughty underwear (and I really don't do the "all girls together pretending to find a game with a polo on string remotely amusing), or whatever the latest party gimmick is. If I want to buy books for my kids I'll find a shop, cheers (although I do adore Usborne books, still avoid those parties on principle).

I do order Avon stuff through a friend occasionally but that's because I'd get it anyway and she's the only person I know who does the catalogues.

I'm afraid I cannot stand these things. People are just trying to make a few quid, but they are trying to make it off their friends - that is what I find odd about these ventures. Avon - fair enough. But the weird parties? Shove your tea tray or whatever it is up your arse.

:)

I clearly have no friends or different kinds of friends - because I NEVER get invited to any of these!

I opened the thread because I thought it was about oing children's birthday parties at home.

Another reason I committed facebook suicide I was getting hounded by 'friends' to buy raffle style tickets to win something on their draw for their latest party at home thing. Every bloody day!
I even had someone bring her party at home stuff to a weekend away with the girls. I felt she must have packed thinking "oh I'll get a couple of quid off this lot while their away"

The stuff is always over priced and under wanted. The 'games' are appalling. The emotional blackmail is deeply annoying. I don't understand how they can be described as parties.

YANBU - my SIL is a Pampered Chef agent and never misses a chance to try to part me from £50 in return for some bit of pot or another! Ok - it's nice pot, but it's still just a bloody cooking dish or whatever and I can think of so many other things to do with a nifty!

they're even oops!

I don't really like this sort of party and if I mention Tupperware, Pippa Dee and Sarah Coventry, it will show the years that I'm talking about. But if I were invited to them, I would go because the hostess would gain points for the number of 'clitents' who arrived so she would benefit from points if not my money.

I certainly went to Tupperware parties and gained points for the hostess because there was always a quiz with Tupperware as a prize. Tries to squeeze head back to the size it was so I have extra long handled spoons and forks for things like deep pickle jars etc. If I want a plastic storage pot with a lid, I go to the 99p shop where they are (possibly) 4 for 99p.

Folding shoe parties?

I hate these things too. I hate the way the invite presents it as a fun evening with wine and nibbles. Why not just invite me round for wine and snacks then and lets have a natter without being interrupted by someone flogging shit I don't want. If I want it I can buy it online myself. It isn't really my idea of a "girls night in" to buy a new wooden spoon/baking tray/tealights/vibrator/whatever.
Calling them "parties" is a serious abuse of the English language.

I really don't think people can make that much money out of hosting these events. They might get to order a free garlic press or a couple of candles, but it can't be a way to get rich, especially as with most of them, the host doesn't earn cash but gets money off stuff. The reps might make money of course, but even then I doubt it is a serious earning opportunity.

YANBU - I always try to avoid too.

I hate them, they're just not my idea of a fun evening and I hate the pressure to spend money on stuff that I don't need just to avoid being seen as the tight, miserable cow in the corner.

The worst one was some sort of jersey clothing range where a shapeless top was supposed to be able to "take you from girly lunch to the gym to a nightclub" just by a few cunning twists of the material and an elastic band . The only time I saw the host wearing the stuff was to do the gardening.

I am assuming that's for Anne Summers

"Times are hard and people are just trying to make a few quid."

Let me guess - you're one of them...

What about: 'times are hard and people are just trying to save a few quid'?

Never been invited to one myself, but can imagine it would get very annoying very quickly.

Bean and Spud

I am assuming that's for Anne Summers

Oh dear! I hadn't noticed my typo but the word I used does fit because I did go to an Ann Summers Party 100 yars ago and bought a couple of extremely useful things garments. I never bought anything else though.

YANBU. Work should not be about trying to make money from your friends at pseudo-parties.