To leave sleeping toddler lie and take elder son's PE kit to school once he wakes up?

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Have had the week from hell due to excessively grumpy 8yo in large part plus usual toddler tantrums. DS8 and I discussed three times this morning he needed his PE kit, having packed it carefully last night, he still didn't take it. He has a list he uses each day to tell him what to pick up as leaving house. This system works unless DS is grumpy when he won't look at list.

School called me just as toddler falling asleep to say could I just pop it in, I said I could but not immediately.

I know DS8 will be annoyed but I think a) that's why we have a list and we work out what we need and we remind you and b) if I wake up toddler I will miss my brain-saving time and am likely to end up in a frazzled grump shouting like a fishwife later.

AIBU to leave sleeping toddler to lie even though result could be DS8 will have to wear pants to do PE today?

Have the school not got any spare kit he can borrow? At my DD's school they have a box full of outgrown PE kit that children can borrow. Job done, minimum fuss. It does sound as though your school's secretary is making a song and dance about it all

I took the kit when I was passing and found out he has PE last lesson so he will have ended up with his kit for both things grrr!

But I have learnt my lesson not to feel guilted by the secretary. I think it really is more about her than anything, so I shall replace her in my mind with a different persona as suggested by Helennn !

at 8 more than capable to pack his bag/look at list of what is needed and if doing pe in his pants then he will learn

shame lesson was in the afternoon as forgetting it today hasnt taught him anything