AIBU to just ROAR?!

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At the moment i just want to roar at the fucking world.
Roar at DH for having the freedom to work, to go to work dinners, trips, you name it.

Roar at PIL for being so fucking cold that they were in the neighbourhood (3 hours from where they live) yet didn't call in to see GD who they supposedly adore but don't see half enough of (their words).

Roar at fucking teetha granules for spilling all over the playmat.

Roar at the lady at baby music who wears god awful shoes and has bad hair and loves her own singing voice way too much.

Roar at DH whose solution to whenever I am tired/sick of DD teething is "just get my mum down" cos of course when tired and grumpy i want to have my MIL around and she didn't even bloody pop in when nearby, why would i bother?! Grrrrrrrrrr

Just bloody ROAR.

Oh no, ROAR away!!

Life and the people in it can be so fucking, fucking roar-inducing, can't they? I have a friend who has what she calls dishcloth days, where she vents by screaming into the tea towel so that no-one can hear her. I get her, totally.

Oh and three new jumpers i bought? Fucking dry clean only.

ROAR (pass me the dishcloth!)

Sounds like me when DCs were tiny. So no, YANBU to feel like that, I think everyone does at some point. Probably wouldn't be reasonable to actually roar at them though. Go to something other than baby music if she's that annoying. Everything else gets better in time IME. Or, as others would put it, This Too Shall Pass.

If you can bear to have your MIL round, she might be more help than you think. And maybe she was in the area but couldn't get to you as well as whatever else she was doing? It happens, although I understand your frustration.

Actually let's make this a ROAR thread. Come on people, anything you wish to roar about please add it here. A pride roars far louder than one sole lion!

YANBU.

I'd say "This will pass", but it'd probably make you want to roar at me (or at the very least produce some sort of snarl). And anyway, I think the jumpers will probably stay dry-clean only, so that bit of it won't pass. Sorry and all.

Make sure it's a clean and dry dish-cloth. That's my only advice.

Just wash the jumpers on a delicate or wool/silk cycle and dry them flat and reshaped on a folded towel, slowly. They'll be fine. Lots of manufacturers can't be bothered to do all the tests they have to do to be able to label something machine washable so they just put dry clean only on it. (Sometimes without even checking to see if it IS dry cleanable)

Oh god, no - don't have your MIL round! What on earth is Blueydragon thinking?!

ROAR at my MIL, who said "You're just like me. I was SUCH a neurotic mother... Oh! I didn't mean that YOU are a neurotic mother!" Fuck off, MIL.

Right, here goes.

1. DH really doesn't pull his weight around the house, but gets arsey when I point this out
2. The elder 2 DCs can be lazy buggars, they bicker and fight all the time, and generally cause a fair bit of tension
3. DH has no ambition, and doesn's seem to want to move upwards in his career. So, in order to try and get more income I'm now juggling 3 p/t jobs and am knackered.
4. I have no family support network. I wanted to move nearer my mum or my sister (opposite ends of the country, but in nice places), DH didn't want to. So, here we are, juggling jobs and 3 children.
5. I have never travelled. We could have worked overseas, but guess what, old stick in the mud I don't really do change DH didn't want to.
6. My dad has bipolar disorder, and spends most of his time in the pits of depression. He refuses to take his medication, and mum has made excuses for him for the last 45 years. We never see him, and DC3 who is 4 didn't know he had a grampa until recently.

I should have name changed, but I really can't be bothered! The above don't always cause me to roar, but I am in a particularly roarsome mood at the moment.

Can I ROAR at the HV who told me patronisingly yesterday that when I get desperate enough I will come back to her for Cry-it-out advice and ROAR at the creche for only taking cancellations before 8am. That's my only ROARs this morning but I'm sure I'll have more later.

What about delightful DD who is sweet and charming until days I have her all day and then turns into the waily whingey toddler from hell. Complete with amazing ability to be both rigid and floppy at once.

DH who has the hump because I pointed out that I do all the DC stuff AND manage to wash the packed lunch stuff and dishes in the 1.5 hours between my pickup and bedtime, yet he thinks I should be impressed that he manages to feed and bath them in the 4 hours he has between his pickup and bedtime. I do ALL the laundry, ALL the packing change bags, making lunches etc, and 80% of the cleaning, cooking and general maintenance shit. All I ask is that I don't come home to a bag of stinky warm yogurt after a 10 hour day. Who does he think does all this stuff each day, the fucking fairies?

DS who has been dressing himself for nearly 2 years.but this morning lost the ability to put pants on.

My parents whose relationship is a farce and they're simply becoming like more children for me to worry about.

My boss who takes unreasonable to new levels.

But mostly DH again because he can't be persuaded to use his upcoming long weekend to go and be with terminally ill MIL :(

1. I have a nasty cold. Sniff sniff snot.
2. I can't have a day off like DH when he is ill, and am too much of a martyr to waste his hols taking a day off so I can sniff in peace.
3. Can't take dd swimming this week. Yesterday cause she fell and cut her head open as we were leaving, today cause I don't have enough change. And a cold.
4. My mum was due to visit today but cancelled in case my 28 yr old sister wants a lift 2 mins up the road tomorrow (see my other thread).
5. I post a thread moaning about my family and only 2 lovely people reply.
6. I have to wait another 6 weeks to see of there is a problem with dc2's heart (am pregnant).

Can I ROAR please?

1. I'm going to pinch your first one - at DH for having the freedom to go to work, go to his exercise thing at work, to say 'I shan't be home for dinner and baths any nights this week'. ROAR
2. My 7mo won't sleep. Ever. ROAR
3. DH and I need to go and speak to the planning officer but DH can't get any time off atm. ROAR
4. My toddler came home from preschool yesterday having wet 3 pairs od trousers! ROAR

Ninky - your family sound a nightmare, and fingers crossed re.DC2.

Ooooh YANBU to want to ROAR about those things. Can I join in?

1. New cardy six inches shorter than I thought from pic online so has to go back and now I have no cardy to wear
2. 8yo behaving like a teenager, shouting, stomping, grumping over everything and permanently winding younger brother up
3. 2yo taking 30 bloody minutes to get dressed last three days, meaning I am too grumpy to think by end of exercise.
4. Getting up at 5:30 nearly every sodding day
5. No money to do nice things ever so spending all my time looking at the 'price per lentil' small print in the supermarket

ROAR

Ninky - I will try to find your other thread and post! Hope things go ok for DC2.

Id love to ROAR too please!

1. at my 2 older boys (5&3) for constantly winding each other up and fighting so much that they do end up hurting each other.
2. at myself for being such a crap mum as when they were fighting and I was feeding the baby, I tried to grab the older one to get him off the younger one and managed to scratch the top of his back quite badly and so can't believe I hurt him.

Ninky, apologies as I did see your thread but didn't know what to reply so didn't! Hope things work out ok for you though.

My 7 year old (who objects to still being walked to school) roared at me this morning. She said "I hate you mummy" very loudly where every one could hear. Just left her at the gate & came home.
Not in a good place at the oment anyway and its just really the last straw.

That sounded really attention seeking, sorry

1. Despite being pregnant I am craving prawn cocktail, all the time.

ROAR, OP, ROAR. Just bloody go for it.

It's DD (6) birthday today, so I'm happy and I'm having a reasonable week, so on this occasion I won't join you, but I might save a ROAR for another day when things no doubt won't be going so well!!!!

(Except I will sort of ROAR that DH is out two evenings this week and most of Saturday, though he did make DD her special birthday breakfast this morning and was late to work in the bargain so it's only a small roar. )

1. It's my due date.

1. I had convinced myself that this one would be early. Guess what?

1. I appear to have lost my joint account bank card but only found out when I got to the till.

More of a Grrrrr than a ROAR, but with quiet menace.

Haven't got the energy to roar but adding my little whimper to this thread.

2 sick children + 1 sick nanny = me off work looking after said children, having not slept properly for over a week and wondering when the hell I am going to be able to catch up on my workload.

Hope the roaring helps relieve some of the tension everyone!

I am weeping with frustration because my dh has just emailed me to inform me that our flat is on the market. It has, in fact, been on the market for two weeks. I have told him that we have had four viewings and that my friend has seen it isn the window of the estate agents.
He just switches off when I start talking. Or maybe it's only real because he foudn it on the internet.
ROAR

1. DH's comment this morning about what a great night DS had, no you idiot he was up every two hours from 11 - 4 at which point he decided that he'd prefer to be up hourly.

1. I've slept through the night once since august 2010 and am generally loosing the will to live.

1. DS will only nap on me, I do not know how to get him to nap anywhere else, he us 6 months old this makes me feel like a failure. I am meant to be working on my PhD whilst he sleeps.

1. Also feel so totally hard done by that DH pretty much gets to live such a similar life to the pre-DS one he had. Sometimes it feels like I have list my entire identity.

ROAR.

ninky - you can eat prawns when pg. as long as they are cooked - which they would be.

Right, that's it. Off to the supermarket.

My ROAR is at work. I have done extras this week meaning an equivelant of 4 days worth in 3. It is my day off today and I have to go in for a fucking staff meeting. bastards.

ok, i just posted this on another thread but its my ROAR of the week!!!

there is a woman who goes to same Weightwatchers class as me and I always seem to get there same time as she does. She has a little girl about 5 or so and she nags nags nags the poor kid to death. I want to ROAR at her leave the poor sod alone!!!

Do this, dont do that, leave that, sit down, stand still, dont talk, dont sing! (all she was doing was sitting nicely on the chair humming to herself ffs!!)

Even when someone was handing out sweets to all the kids and they all rushed up, obviously the little girl wanted one but she was still nagging her, making her sit down and wait until she was formally invited. That kid is gonna be sick of it by the time she is 6 - I am sick of it already and I only see her 20 minutes a week.