To feel really sorry for myself and a bit alone..

[missmakesstuff]

I have put my back out - chronic sciatica brought it on coughing for the last couple of weeks and picking up my 18month old at night I think, I have a disc problem anyway and it just went this morning when I was dropping her off at the childminders. Normally it's manageable but it occasionally goes like this, it's caught me out completely, never had the pain this bad.

I got sent home today, had to use a wheelchair to get to my car as I can barely walk, got loads of drugs but they don't seem to be doing anything, and can barely move.

I feel so useless, I have to look after DD on my own all day tomorrow, DH is doing what he can (and bought me chocs, he means well) but he has a new job and cannot take the day off, (or won't, grr) and I just don't know how I will manage tomorrow. I am in so much pain and I feel so helpless, I don't have anyone else I can rely on to help me. It's just made me realise that actually I don't really have anyone to rely on.

Just want to cry. If anyone has any bright ideas about how I can cope, would be grateful! I know I am being self indulgent and there are many worse things people cope with everyday, so a (gentle) kick up the arse is needed too I guess. Just don't make me laugh, it hurts.

OH no, poor you. I suppose it's stupid to ask if there's anyone who can come over and give you a hand?

I don't have any family here, all friends are at work, I don't have that many close friends anyway. one friend is off work, but she probably has lovely exciting stuff planned all day and I wouldn't be on her list of priorities. My childminder is near work, and only I drive, so can't take DD there.

I just hate being so useless..I desparately want to tidy up, as when we got home today and I was stuck on the sofa, DD emptied my bag onto the floor, most of it is still there and it is driving me crazy! I am just not used to having no control!

Can your dp take dd to the childminder?

Can't you ring your friend and see if she can help? She may be happy to?

Sorry I'm not being very inspired. But bumping for you in the hope that somebody can do better. All sympathies.

Oh, and DO NOT TIDY UP!

Sleep on the sofa so you can spend all day watching dvd's with your child. Get your husband to make soup or beans in a flash for lunch so you only have to do bread and butter or toast to go with it.

go swimming.. it is amazing for helping with sciatica. even if you are just floating about in the water playing with your toddler it will help relieve the pain a bit..

Dp take dd to childminder or ask cm to pick her up
Phone parents or inlaws and ask them to travel to help you
Or if you can afford it put dd in a private nursery
You can always take her out later on

Thanks all - have sent DH out to get ready meals, so lunch etc taken care of. friend has said her MIL might be able to help, ut has her 4month old for the fisrt week back at work for her, so not fair on her to ask really. CM too far away and in opp direction to dh work, going o try hot bath, we usually go swimming on a thurs, know it would help but just cannot see how I could get dd changed and in pool without having to lift her - I just cant, too scared of dropping her. also, her in pool equals lots of throwin herself in, not much floating would be done, it's not a peacful experience!