To not really care what happens to me when I die?

[toptramp]

Sorry to be so morbid and deep but have been thinking about this since mum died. If nothing happens I don't care as I won't know about it and it will be a rest. If I come back as something else then fair enough. The only thing that worries me is the idea of going to hell because I'm sure I'd be destined there instead of heaven but as a non-believer I think that heaven and hell is a stste of mind rather than a place you go to when dead; rather like the buaiist idea of nirvana and samsara.

YANBU to not care. I don't care either, as I don't think anything happens. However, you are BU to think that it will be a rest - it won't be restful because you won't know about it . I'm so sorry about your mum.

I think oblivion would be extremely peaceful! Not that I am not enjoying consciousness because IO am.

bhuddist sorry. I cannot spell tonight!

I work with people who are end of life and talk quite matter of fact about death and such.

I dont particularly care what happens to me when I die but I have discussed it with nearest and dearest. One of the most common things in my line of work is people "not knowing" what to do in the absence of their being a discussion prior to the event. Often you see relatives unsure of if they are doing right by their loved one or not.

So, in my view you may not care, but make sure you leave your loved ones with an idea of what you would like, just so they can make informed choices at a difficult time safe in the knowledge it would be what you want.

oh, I thought buaiist was some religion I'd never heard of!

Signet2012 that's true, my 92 year old ill grandma won't tell us what she wants - won't even settle on burial or cremation! Maybe she thinks deciding will bring it on faster, in which case fair enough (kind of).

toptramp I agree with you, I don't care about what happens to my body, as for my soul- we live on in others.
However, I care about what happens to others when I go, leaving DD, DH, family and friends. I don't want anyone to feel the grief I have felt losing family and friends. I feel grief at the thought of leaving my family. That's what upsets me.

I'm not fussed either. I'd like my remaining immediate family and friends, to have a good old drink up, in my honour, so keep the cost down on everything else!

I will however, insist my best friends wear something bright and not black. Mainly because it's too easy to find something black in their wardrobes, and despite being dead, I am still in charge of the dress code!