to want my dc to stop calling MIL mummy??

[thinkingwhattodotoday]

MIL looks after dd 2 days a week - doesn't charge us so is something that really helps. Only problem dd calls her (and me) muma. I would like MIL to correct her when she does this but she seems to think it a big joke and doesn't correct it! It stresses me out and I worry people might think she is the mother (though unlikely I hope as she's in her late fifties). dh doesn't care.

It sounds as though DD is not old enough to realise that one is Mummy and the other is not. How old is she?

she's 13mths. I realise she doesn't really know what she's saying but can't really see how she'll ever learn if not corrected (when with them both I do correct but she looks after her while I work).

How old is DD? My MIL used to relish telling me how DD had called her Mummy at times. I used to laugh and say yes she calls me Daddy too, funny how confused they get with names ha ha ha.

I too would prefer it to be corrected but believe me, it wont stick. Your DD will soon work out the correct term for everybody. But when it happened in front of me I used to say no that's Nanny Darling.

oh cross posts. She really will ge to know because when you are there too she'll realise you each have a name that you go by. The same way as you arent daddy!

Your daughter hears you call your mother "Mum", so assumes that is her name too. At 13 months she is so young, she is only just learning words anyway.

Do you think I could insist that she corrects her? Last week she told me of a woman living in the county who apparently had a child in her mid fifties (didn't know it was possible but maybe it is with donor eggs??)

DH calls MIL mum in front of her.

I doubt it is intentional. Try not to get hung up on it. My nephew calls me Mama a lot by mistake. It's just a slip of the tongue.

No-one will think she is really his Muma!

She's 13 months, she would probably call any female carer muma, especially as she hears DH. I refused to call my mum mummy, I called her by her first name because everyone else did.

I don't think you can or should insist. It makes you sound insecure which would only add fuel to the fire. Give it time, she'll get the hang of it. Makes sure DH calls you mummy and that's how you refer to yourself and as her speech improves she'll get the hang of it.

She's only 13 months, chill!

Muma = person who will look after me

She's 13 months.

My 12 month old calls me,dh and ds1 Dada.

Its his only word along with tadaa!! and Sshhhhhh

Ds (3yo) calls my mother 'mum'. I used to be 'mummy' which at least made it clear, but now we're both 'mum'. No amount of correcting seems to make any difference - I still refer to her as 'nana' which is what he used to call her before mum. He knows who I'm referring to when I do, it's just his default name for her. He also calls dh by his first name even though we keep correcting him to 'daddy'.

I understand the upset - but you may just have to get used to it till dd decides to start calling everyone by their correct title. Otherwise you'll just wind yourself up about it. No point getting cross with mil - she'll do what she can to get through the day and if being called mama amuses her then it's worth letting her have her small pleasure if your dd is happy and you're getting free childcare.

My eldest DD used to call every man Daddy when she started to speak. This phase doesn't last long, though I can understand your feelings.

Ah,I understand how that would sting a bit,thinkingwhattodotoday.It willpass though,and in the meantime just be glad that dd isn't calling you Nana.

MIL wanted DD to call her 'mam' (it's a welsh thing) but we went with something different but similar. DD at that sort of age did call us both mam/mum/mama but she's now 2yo and calls MIL the correct name. I'd try not to get worked up about it as you will just add fuel to the fire.

I didn't obviously correct DD when she used the term (only if MIL was out of earshot) but did use MIL name all the time, without sounding too OTT. That way, I hope we didn't seem too precious (even though I was a bit!) but did try to reinforce the correct name.

We're now in the realm of me being called the CMs name rather than mummy , but DD will soon learn as I only respond to mummy [evil mummy emoticon]

DS used to call his childminder Mummy - he grew out of it somewhere between 2.5 and 3. I would try not to stress about it.

DS calls DH 'honey' because that's what i call him. Our DDs were both known by DD2's name for a while too! :o