For his 12th birthday she said she was going to make her son and his two friends (who was staying over) vodka jelly shots.
Dh and I were horrified, I told her she was being ridicouolus and glamourising alchohol. And that she needs to gt permission from the parents before giving them alcohol. Other friends told her the same and she gave them bottles of WKD instead and thought this was a better alternative.
Fast forward 6 months and same boys staying over. The following day she finds out the boys had been stealing beer out of the fridge and pouring pimms into their coke while she and her dh were asleep -she leaves them to sleep in the living room.
To make matters worse, one of the boys mums was worried as her son is border line diabetic and isn't allowed alcohol. This is the same boy who my friend was giving bottles of wkd earlier in the year 
She is not going to tell his mum this!!
Her opinion is that they are generally well behaved boys and this is just one mistake and grounding him for a period of time will sort it out.
Aibu to think she is setting herself for the teenage years from hell and that she really needs to grow up and start acting like a parent?