to not agree to this sleepover?

[soandsosmummy]

I had a call from another mum of a girl in dd's class at 2pm today asking if I could possibly pick her DD up from school and bring her home as she was not well and had gone to bed. I said that was fine and would she like me to keep her dd until about 6.30pm, give her tea and then drop her home so she could have a good chance to rest

At 6pm she phoned and said would I keep her dd overnight and take her to school in the morning. I said no as we hadn't planned for a sleepover (no pyjamas, tooth brush etc.), we don't have a spare bed and also her dd didn't have her school uniform as they'd been on a school trip today. Also my dd was very tired and I didn't want her being distracted and not sleeping properly

DDs friends mum is really not that well and now I'm having doubts and wondering if I was being unreasonable. Her dad was home though and seemed fine.

They are both year 1

I would worry that there might be more to it. Perhaps domestic problems or something. :(

No yanbu- you did more than your bit picking her up etc. plus I am afraid unless you see hospital sick don't you just suck it up if kids sick ?

I agree that it sounds like there is more to it. But it's up to you at the end of the day.

blimey gigondas kid sick is one thing high on the list i would not like to suck up :)

sorry maybe not clear the mum is sick not the child

unless there is really more to it, then yanbu - there is one well parent at home, he should have come and picked up their dd from you if possible when he was home from work (assuming he was out at work today).

I think squeakytoy might be on to something - perhaps there are other reasons the mum is hoping you could keep her for a night?

I don't exactly think YABU, but if it is the first time she's asked for a favour like that, I think I would have said yes. If you or the girls are good friends, especially.

agreed - yes assumed it was mum . Presume this is time to give kids free run of watching tv while you lie on sofa is a better way of putting it ?

The other thing is isn't dd quite young - year 1 is about 6? That is quite young to be out of routine ESP if I uniform etc (hence why think op worry about her dd being tired is not unreasonable)

Hadn't even thought of domestic problems. I saw the mum this morning and she did look awful obviously some kind of fluey illness so hope that's all it is

to be honest we do have domestic problems and I've recently been put on ADs so probably not thinking strait

YANBU a mid week sleepover would have to be pre-arranged due to long laid plans of the other family and would be for closest friends or to help out in an absolute emergency, ie, mum going into labour, child being admitted to hospital in an emergency and mum a single parent or day away on business, etc. Cheeky to ask in the given circumstances afaiac.

I've just texted her to ask if she's ok and she's messaged back her dd had a great time and is now asleep.

I once had to organise a sleepover for dd with someone else at really short notice - dp working away, I collapsed at work, was taken to hospital by ambulance and spent the night in hospital on heart monitors, massive pain killers and two drips and having a brain scan. My friend was brilliant about it and all I can remember is sobbing down the phone "I'm sorry I didn't mean to be ill but I really can't look after dd very well tonight" turne dout to be some rare but v nasty virus.