Who do we blame?

[ChrissasMissis]

I'm pretty sure AINBU. Perhaps I'm being naive or even wildly optimistic, but I cannot for the life of me fathom why men still believe that wives/girlfriends/partners expected to shoulder ALL domestic responsibility?

Who is perpetuating this? I know for a fact that my OH SEES mess, is CAPABLE of cleaning it up and UNDERSTANDS that domestic chores need to be undertaken. However, it usually takes five or six prompts from me first.

My mother made me seethe about this earlier, when I complained that all my careful efforts to keep on top of mess/chores etc...had been undone by OH over the course of the weekend. She told me that I'm a housewife now and it's my job. I have had a baby - this does not automatically make me in charge of the home. Yes, I am on maternity leave at present, but will be going back to work shortly and what happens when I do...?

I am determined that my DS will not grow up to believe he is entitled to waited on.

Rat over.

Sorry.

Not on the subway. Cooking lunch on the subway would be weird. Sunday

Oh Pag that is sweet about your DS! Can he bulk cook mash!

My Mum worked full time abut still cooked every night...though my Dad took a real interest later in his 40s and he also did wash up etc. SHe never really waited on him at all.

Train all DCs-as soon as you get a thread on here about 4 yr olds helping in the house people come on and say 'how cruel-they should have a childhood' as if setting the table impinges on this! The 'devoted' mother is then the martyr who later on gets annoyed when 'everyone treats it like a hotel'!

He decided to part cook all the potatoes, remove half and put in the fridge, then make mash as usual. And then, in a day or so, he will finish cooking fridge potatoes and make fresh mash but quicker iyswim. Not sure if it will work but I am pleased he is not the girl next door to him who buys m&s mash and can't ubderstand where her money is going.

Thing is when he gets home from trainning he just wants to eat asap. And on a couple of days he only has half an hour free. His lectures and tutorials are not very well spaced. Bless

I agree exoticfruits. The 'i want them to have their childhood' types are the parents of the poor girl who is buying mash and the poor gits turning up at uni, trying to get used to being away from home snd settle in but are totally blindsided by not knowing how to take care of themselves. Ds1 says the ones who wait for the others to clear up after them are becoming really unpopular really quickly.
I am a sahm and we have cleaners. That does not mean you can't make dc be responsible for themselves.