To do a phoenix-out-of-the-ashes after losing the last few years to my twins

[doradaisy]

DSs are now 15 months old. Also have DD, age 4.

I've let the weight pile up due to comfort snacking caused of sleep deprivation (with 3 hours sleep, one tends to reach for a sugary donuts and coffee rather than porridge and chopped fruit)

I feel I've aged and got lots more wrinkles due to stress/lack of sleep.

Most days I just throw on a tracksuit as the days of grooming are kind of goen for now

My FIL commented on how I've changed since the twins and how my sister (who also has twins) looks great - grr [anger]

Basically, life has pretty much revolved around the twins. It was the most mentally and physically challenging time. It has really changed me - made me stronger of course, but I feel like a bit of a frump and feel my sense and humour, easygoing self has taken a hit.

Is there a name for this?

(Am sorry if I sound like a moan) I love them, I think they're wonderful - and have really enjoyed them and taken pleasure in watching them grow into smiley little men :)

However, things back to normal (ish, in that we're all sleeping the night) am thinking of resuming tennis lessons, retraining as a speech therapist (am currently a teacher) and getting my mojo back!

Am I crazy to make such plans? Is the old me gone forever?

Good for you - you go for it and enjoy!

Noooooooooooooooooooooooo!

Reclaim your inner-self!

I havent owned a skirt or a dress for ooh, 10 years ....... I never wore trousers in the 'real world' ....... I do now, I hit the shops this weekend.... Laydeelikemoi is back.

Go for it, I did the same after I had DD nearly 2 years ago. I lost 4 stone, grew some fashion sense, took some pride in my appearance and it boosted my self confidence dramatically.
That's not to say that I still don't have major self esteem niggles and other issues, but I know that I can throw on any number of clothes on in the morning, and look good.

no you should, it sounds great! i am getting desperate to do the same thing, i dont have twins just 3 small kids, but the lack of looking nice and chance to focus on my self a bit is really starting to become annoying. if you're at the stage where your twins are starting to sleep bit better and you get some time for yourself then it will prob do you the world of good to focus on yourself more and do things to make yourself feel better about yourself. its good for your whole family i think, cos you will be happier and more confident and overall feeling better.

Yes, yes, yes, do it, you will feel so much better. If you are emerging from twinshock now and have more energy, do some things for you.

I also have 3 incl twins (except my DTs are older). I remember in the early days it took so much that sometimes I felt as if there was nothing left. However as things got incrementally easier I started to do more for me, in little fits and starts. With me it was mainly improving my fitness and getting out on my own for some headspace. Yes do it - you won't get exactly your old you back, but a different, newer, more energised you, and your family will benefit.