to not want my mum to walk around in my flat in her underpants?

[MrsHuxtable]

In front of DH?

I know I'll get flamed for this but I'll say it anyway: It also bugs me that she is very overweight and always wears clothes several sizes too small, so even if she wears more than her pants, her bum crack and belly that is the size of a 8 months pregnant person are constantly on show.

I just want her to have some dignity and for DH to be able to look about his living room without getting embarrassed.

Does she just come over and strip off or does she live there?

Regardless of her size this is inappropriate. I've seen some of your other threads and she sounds like a nightmare, I hope you're coping ok.

No, she just comes to around to stay for a few days and makes herself VERY comfortable.

YANBU. Not nice.

YANBU no matter what size she is or what she looks like, no one should be walking around the communal parts of a house in front of unrelated adults wearing too few clothes!

YABU for being nasty about her size, but I haven't seen your other threads so I guess there's a lot of "last straw" going on here??

Ewwww. I should imagine it makes your husband rather uncomfortable too!

Your house, your rules. Tell her to put some clothes on!

YANBU. You need to have words.

I could never do that in my daughter's house. My mother came to live here for a while and I never saw her without clothes (until once when I had to help her out of the bath). Anyway, suppose you have sudden visitors?

There is a word that you use use when you speak to her - 'modesty'.

YANBU- but I've read other posts from you I think- re- your mum, and it sounds like she is not going to change her ways regardless of what you say. Chuck her out of your house- if she refuses to respect you enough to follow your rules (or the basic rules of common decency for that matter) then you shouldnt tolerate her in your home.

Does she have MH problems? seems a very innapropriate way to behave infront of your DH

I'd have a frank word with her tbh,does she not wear a bra either? ewww

or by underpants do you mean like underwear?

Buy her a dressing gown.

YANBU

Can you have a stern word with her and shame her a bit?

I will not say anything to her because she will probably start to cry and tell me I'm being mean. I favourite role in life is being the victim. I'll just get through the next 5 days with her here and that'll be the last visit for a long long time.

I was just asking because I was wondering if I'm being unreasonable due to my pissed-offness with her general behavious. I can feel I have no patience left with her, so wasn't sure if it was me being wrong in the situation, getting annoyed too quickly.

She does wear a bra and top, also socks, just no trousers over her underpants. The most I can hope for is see through tights. I think she finds her clothes uncomfortable but that is due too them being several sizes too small.

I do think she must have mental health problems considering all the other stuff she says and does.

Could you buy her a few items of clothing in the correct size? If she is going round half undressed rather than getting clothes in the correct size it sounds like she is having some mental health problems. Is she quite elderly? I would be worried that she is showing signs of not coping personally. Haven't seen your other posts so have no idea about her other behaviour, but this clearly isn't normal.

I'm sure it is frustrating having to deal with that sort of thing though. make it easier on yourself and see if you can buy her some clothes to put on. Cut the size labels out if you think she is deluding herself.

The clothes thing is an excellent idea. Maybe some 'lounging' clothes e.g. sweatshirt and bottoms.

YADNBU and I also understand why you'd not want to see body parts hanging out either

It also bugs me that she is very overweight and always wears clothes several sizes too small, so even if she wears more than her pants, her bum crack and belly that is the size of a 8 months pregnant person are constantly on show.

you sound jealous :)

be secure in your own skin, laugh it off

Nope, not elderly. In her fifties.

It is clear delusion about her own size because she buys new clothes, just too small.

My other threads are about her having been abusive in my childhood and generally still putting me down constantly whenever she gets a chance. Only I'm too big to be beaten up physically now. So I will not buy her any clothes but in general it's a very good idea.

YANBU. If I had done that in front of my SIL I dont know what he would have done.

Run for the hills??? [hhmm]

I was going to ask if she has mental health issues. This is not normal!

Sorry, but.... eeeww... No advice. Sorry. Made me bring my lunch up though - cheers!

Gosh, that is weird that she is buying herself stuff knowing it doesn't fit. She clearly needs help with mental health.

You are being perfectly reasonable to insist that she can't go round your home dressed like that and she either puts clothes on or covers up with a dressing gown that you provide for her to use. You shouldn't have to be seeing her walking round in her pants, neither should your husband. it really isn't appropriate when you are a guest in someone's home.