to expect dh to do something in house whilst I am away with dc

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We had use of a holiday chalet for a week but dh could only get a couple of days off. I spent most of last sunday ironing and packing etc for me and dc to go away away Monday morning. Before leaving Monday I loaded dishwasher and put a load of washing out of line.
Dh grudgingly brough in washing and left it in basket on the stairs! but plates etc remained in dishwasher for whole week.
Also returned home to find his empty crisp packets on side and dirty washing up in bowl.
AIBU to have expected hime to have at least emptied dishwasher and reloaded it and to have put crisp packets in bin etc.

Oh, yuck! Dirty washing up is a pet hate of mine.
No, YANBU obviously. But is this a one-off or a regular thing? If a one-off I'd probably just say it was a bit annoying, but if a regular thing it is crap behaviour.

YANBU. Have you spoken to him about it?

YANBU. Even if it is a one off tell him what you think. He should have definitely cleaned up after himself and unloaded the dishwasher.

Not back yet as I returned earlier with little ones. Just wondering if I was overreacting.

He stopped off at theme park with older ds.

Lazy bastard.

I would have expected to come back to a spotless house. Hoovering, polishing and the ironing done as well as a hot meal on the table.

As Fabbychic said - lazy bastard. lol

Lazy basta*d.

He probably thinks it's a good job the housework fairy came back the same time as you to sort it all out.

I went away for a week in the summer, leaving a used teabag on the spoon rest as a test to see what would happen DD and I were in a hurry.

It was still there when we came back. Did he think I was going to use it again?

YANBU.

I'd ask him when he intends to tidy up after himself. I wouldn't do it. If I needed to have a blazing row then I would.

Lazy bastard.

the house fairy will have to go on strike.

and you aer not being unreasonable. he is supposed to be a grown up who can look after himself, supposedly. do not let him get away with being so helpless.

I left the house with DD for an hour today and all the washing was folded and put away when I got back. WTF is wrong with some people???

If he doesn't do it, who does he think will do it?

It's the expectation that the 'maid' - i.e. you - will clear up after him which is so obnoxious. He clearly thinks he's too good to do it, whereas you're not. Nice.

Yadnbu. I feel :( for you that you weren't sure if this is unreasonable.

Of course he should have chucked his crisp packets in the bin and put his plates in the dishwasher.

But one thing I would say is, does he ever point it out when you leave the house in a mess, or is he the kind of person who doesn't really notice? My DH is good at cleaning, but the flipside of this is that he doesn't like it when our house is a tip (frequently). Sigh.

When my ex and I were still together, I went on an independent holiday and left out the instructions for the washing machine. He had done washing up etc and used the washing machine so that strategy worked. But the ironing basket had fifteen shirts in it so I had those to do as well as my own filthy fortnight's laundry. I'm glad he wouldn't let me press his trousers though because I'm no good at that. I pity his new wife.

it is such a pity that I am intentionally so crap at ironing shirts. :)