To think living in a detached house does not mean that noise doesn't matter

[lesley33]

I am friends with a lovely couple, but I would hate to be their neighbour. If I am at their house, they will very regularly play their music very loud, including very late e.g. 2 or 3am. I have a few times suggested it is a "bit loud" and suggested that they should turn it down. They have said, that as they live in a detached house, their music isn't a problem.

Now I know noise in houses with shared walls or flats transmit much more noise between dwellings. But they live in a suburb estate, not miles from their nearest neighbours.

AIBU to be glad that I am not their neighbour and their noise does matter?

They sound exactly like my friends! They often have music blasting out into the garden on nice days and have bought outdoor speakers for next summer. I find it hard to understand this, as in every other way they are such lovely people.

YANBU as you should still be polite to your neighbours even if their walls don't ajoin yours.

Music carries and nobody has any reason to play music into the early hours more than perhaps once a year for a special occasion.

Having said all that, I am sure that my children make a ridiculous amount of noise and annoy my neighbours constantly. I have 4 kids under 8 and I know that my elderly neighbours left their patio to go indoors on more than one occasion over the summer hols when mine were running around the garden with friends making a racket. But I guess that is daytime during summer holidays and no getting away from that. Just to clarify, unreasonable shouting or screaming and they had to come in but the general noise was loud and as I was heavily pregnant over the summer they spent hours out there in the summer house, on the trampoline, racing over the climbing frame or in the paddling pool.

DH and I have decided that when we retire we will be getting away from family areas as quickly as possible.

I'd be tempted to say "I'm not so sure, I'll go outside and listen just to check".

If they have had no complaints what does it matter?

It's their house!

If they do it with windows or doors open then YANBU. If they have windows and doors shut then YABU.

YANBU - but it does depend on how detached - my parents live on a farm in a detached house, which is detached by about 1 mile radius! They don't really have to worry!

If it impacts on their neighbours it doesn't matter if the house is detached or not - of the music is loud enough to affect neighbours it is inconsiderate.

(I am esp bitter today after being kept up by my upstairs "neighbours" party which involved v loud music and shouting and went on and on and on well into the wee hours)

Personally I am for a midnight curfue (SP?) for loud music! (and in an ideal world slippers for all upstairs flat dwellers with wooden floors.....)